Please help me, How to build up self confidence in communication? That is my interpersonal skill problems. Thank's for all.^^I have to find more than one point for that, I mean in my own opinion, I...

Please help me, How to build up self confidence in communication? That is my interpersonal skill problems. Thank's for all.^^

I have to find more than one point for that, I mean in my own opinion, I just know "that I need to execise before" but I know although it maybe right but that just not a good answer for interpersonal skill.

Please help.^^

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drmonica | (Level 2) Associate Educator

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I agree that practice is very helpful, and so is taking a course. I’d take practice one step further and videotape yourself, then study your tapes to see where you can make improvements. National Board Certified Teachers are required to videotape themselves teaching and then write analyses of what they see about themselves. Videotape is a powerful tool. You can use your laptop webcam, or just set up your cell phone on its side on a shelf and talk to it.

Sports coaches use videotapes of games to analyze what to do better, and they show clips to their players as educational tools. There is no substitute for seeing yourself on camera to improving your own public speaking skills.

I agree that practice is very helpful, and so is taking a course. I’d take practice one step further and videotape yourself, then study your tapes to see where you can make improvements. National Board Certified Teachers are required to videotape themselves teaching and then write analyses of what they see about themselves. Videotape is a powerful tool. You can use your laptop webcam, or just set up your cell phone on its side on a shelf and talk to it.

Sports coaches use videotapes of games to analyze what to do better, and they show clips to their players as educational tools. There is no substitute for seeing yourself on camera to improving your own public speaking skills.

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brettd | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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Take a Speech 101 class, really.  These classes are designed for beginners and those with low confidence in speaking situations.  It's where we all started, and now I present five times a day, 9 months a year for 17 years straight with no nervousness at all.  But I surely didn't start that way.  Also remember that others taking that course are likely just as nervous and inexperienced as you are.

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mwestwood | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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So many great suggestions....Just to underscore the concept of practice, standing before others and speaking to them is invaluable.  Repeatedly at our school, teachers remarked on what accomplished speakers students of a certain religious affiliation were; later, the students said that once a week they had to present a chapter in the Bible and lead a discussion with their group.  So, they said, they were so used to preparing and speaking before others, that no situation was threatening to them.

Foreign language students underscore the practice of speaking before others, even when one is rather uncomfortable, as a way of improving.  "If I could speak French in front of classmates, I knew I could comfortably deliver in English," one student affirmed.  Also, he said, "Taking a foreign language made me a better listener, more in tune with the correct patterns, etc.  I applied this skill to my English."

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clairewait | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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Practice.  Practice.  Practice.  Practice with friends and family.  Try to laugh a lot and enjoy yourself.  Get comfortable being yourself - and don't be afraid to admit to your audience (with a smile) how nervous you are.

Also - positive self talk (silly as it sounds) works too.  Tell yourself you can do it.  Tell yourself you are awesome.  Sometimes a little bit of arrogance and over-confidence can actually balance the nerves to a happy medium.  Just don't overdo it.

Smile a lot.  People are always on your side when you smile.  Seriously.

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besure77 | Middle School Teacher | (Level 1) Senior Educator

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Public speaking is a very common fear that many people experience. There are many things that you can do to help build your self confidence. For example, another way to maintain self confidence is by looking nice. Appearance is very important and when you take the time to make sure that you are well groomed and dressed nicely it will help you to feel better about yourself. Exercising is also important. When people exercise they become energized and feel more confident. Something else you could try is sitting in the front row or front of the room whenever you are in a public setting. This also helps to boost self confidence and shows people that you are confident because most people sit in the back of the room.

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Ashley Kannan | Middle School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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There are several ways to improve self confidence in communication.  I think that in terms of being able to feel more comfortable with the concept of speaking in public, practicing in front of a mirror is almost cliche, but it makes sense.  In doing so, you can see what others see.  Eye contact and other elements of non-verbal communication can also be enhanced.  I think that along these lines, taping through video or audio means might be a good way for you to be understood and can allow you to critique yourself.  In terms of enhancing the interpersonal skill level, I would say that this is going to have to come from within.  One thing that might help would be to improve active listening techniques.  It's odd to suggest that listening, not speaking, can make you a better communicator, but I believe it to be true.  If people can feel that in your listening, you are validating their voice and their experiences, they have a better chance of being a more receptive audience when you speak and when they have to listen to you.

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ik9744 | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) Valedictorian

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How to have self confidence during a speech:

This is a very big problem, and most people have it. Including myself I had a very big problem with talking to a large or even a small group of people. I was only confident in talking to my friends. I overcame the fear of speeches in front of a medium group of people [30 - 40] in middle school. I'll tell you some tips that I made myself of someone else taught me. First of all NEVER look someone in the eyes, it'll make you more nervous or it'll make you laugh. I've learned that you look at their hair or somewhere next to their face and to their perspective you're looking at them, but you're actually looking at the book behind him/her. Second of all if you fail on something on the speech, don't worry it's not going to kill you. I've made too much mistakes already during my speech, including half my Powerpoint went missing. You just have to play along with what you have. Messing up isn't going to make you lose your dignity... It's not like the people that you're telling the speech is going to affect your whole entire life all the way until you're dead. You might not even see them ever again in your life.

How to have self confidence while communicating:

Since I was very uneducated when I was in kindergarten I actually can't talk that well to other people. Yet I still made it this far :P. Falling behind one year of communication really didn't help, it affected my life a lot. Until I learned how to communicated well my life was miserable. The biggest tip that I could give you on how to communicate with self confidence to other people is thinking that if you never communicate to him/her you'll never get to know them. It'll encourage you to talk to them to make new friends. Also you could use the looking behind or something on the person's face or behind it trick that I explained in the self confidence during speech, but I wouldn't recommend it since it'll just make it more awkward every single time you talk to them... I know it is very or super hard to overcome a fear that been with you for a while or just even trying to get self-confidence at something you lack. I recommend you to first try to talk to a stuff animal and think of topics you could talk to someone, get close to someone and talk to them everyday. Until you build up your self-confident then you can talk to anyone you want!

I hope this helps!

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senpao | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 2) eNoter

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Thank you so much. You know, I have make it all in one note for my presentation. Thank's again, that just more than help.^^

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krishna-agrawala | College Teacher | (Level 3) Valedictorian

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Interpersonal and communication skills are closely interlinked. Good communication skill goes a long way in interpersonal effectiveness. The most important for developing confidence in communication as well in interpersonal relationship is to practice these.

I know it is rater difficult to practice these skills when you are not good at it. But there are three specific ways in which you can overcome this problem. First you must identify specific tasks and occasions in which you can practice these skills. You can start with easier tasks, and as you gain skill and confidence move on to practicing more complex aspects. Also you can try to find friends with similar limitation and form alliances with them for mutual practice. Such mutual help groups can also help by providing feedback on shortcomings for each other.

Second you can join some good and convenient training program. Finally there are many good books available to guide you in your self development efforts.

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senpao | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 2) eNoter

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Thank you. I must have a note for all of it. I'll keep this.

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