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chimeric eNotes educator| Certified Educator

In the Christian world view, honoring one's father and mother (parents) is considered one of the primary points of religious law. It is, in fact, the first point of law that comes with a promise (that your days may be long...Exodus 20:12) Therefore, if one believes that his or her parent's will, law, traditions, or expectations are at odds with God's, that person should be very careful and think long and hard before disobeying his or her parents.

There are examples in the Bible of people disagreeing with their parents and also of their parents giving them advice which contradicts the spirit or letter of God's law:

Jesus resisted Mary's suggestion to supply wine for his first miracle, but complied with her wishes John 2:1-5

Jacob's mother Rebecca instigated the deception where Jacob stole his elder brother Esau's blessing in Genesis 27:

5 Now Rebekah was listening as Isaac spoke to his son Esau. When Esau left for the open country to hunt game and bring it back, 6 Rebekah said to her son Jacob, "Look, I overheard your father say to your brother Esau, 7 'Bring me some game and prepare me some tasty food to eat, so that I may give you my blessing in the presence of the LORD before I die.' 8 Now, my son, listen carefully and do what I tell you: 9 Go out to the flock and bring me two choice young goats, so I can prepare some tasty food for your father, just the way he likes it. 10 Then take it to your father to eat, so that he may give you his blessing before he dies."


In a wider sense, your parents are people and thus fallible. Since this is so, their word or will cannot be considered on par with God's. However, the general rule of thumb is that God changes not. If He commands you to obey your parents, and you do not, then, even if you disobeyed them because you believed you were following God's higher standard or law, then God is not obligated to protect you from the consequences of your disobedience, though He may.

Also, if your parents direct you against God's law, He is not bound to make it work out well for you, though He can do that, as well. All of Jacob's deceptions did little for him, in the physical sense, because the moment his father died, he fled the country in fear of his brother and became wealthy somewhere else.

Ashley Kannan eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I certainly think that there is some validity to the statement.  Yet, I would qualify it to a great extent.  Obedience to parents is a powerful concept if it is one that has been proven worthy.  If parents have not demonstrated the capacity to merit obedience, then to obey them and view them as Godlike figures can become a challenge.  Larger issue present would be whether or not any individual human being should be seen as a figure of Divinity.  Does this not place an immensely potent and nearly impossible to fulfill burden upon their shoulders as it asks humans to act as transcendent figures?  I certainly don't think that the validity in the statement is to ensure that it is taken literally.  If parents have proven worthy of obedience through both words and actions, feelings and sentiments, then it makes sense to honor them as the bond exists.  Yet, if they have not proven worthy of this respect, then to force this obedience might be artificial.

pohnpei397 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

When I saw this question, I thought it meant that to obey your parents is to obey God's will and I will answer that question.

This, of course, depends on what religion you are a member of and how seriously you take your scriptures.  In the Christian faith, the fifth of the Ten Commandments says that you must honor your father and mother.  This order is repeated at different times and in different ways in other parts of the Bible.

However, many Christians in the US do not see this as a command to obey but rather a command to respect.  Personally, I think that this commandment means that you should obey when you are a child but move more toward simply respecting your parents as you grow older.

besure77 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

As a Christian it is very important that children listen to their parents. To obey your parents as you would obey God is in my opinion saying that you should respect them. By listening to them you are doing just that.

Parents generally have a great deal of life experience, therefore they are wise. According to scripture, God has given parents the authority to command their children so they are in a way considered to be a "representative" of God.

"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. . . Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." (Ephesians 6:1-4)

accessteacher eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I think we need to consider the context of such statements. As a parent myself I know that there are situations where I expect my kids to obey me blindly and without questioning when I tell them to do something for their personal safety. Crossing roads is an every day example. Yet at the same time, this kind of instant obedience becomes less and less apropiate (though still valid in some situations) when kids grow up and become teens then adults.

litteacher8 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I think this idea was designed to encourage children to obey their parents.  They may not respect or want to obey their parents, but since their parents are supposedly teaching them the will of God, they obey Him through their parents.

frizzyperm | Student

Blind obedience is dangerous and wrong. Some parents are awful people who do not deserve repect or parental authority. If you love your parents and they have earned your respect then treat them well and be thankful. But there is no reason that parents should automatically force their children to show respect which has not been earned, that is totalitarian.

eslamgewshy | Student

iam amuslim and we have many musts about the absolute obedience toward our parents's quran,the holy book,many verses talk about this subject and also our prophet muhamed(pbuh) ordered us to obey our parents in everything except what may oppose our religion obligations.

i think that far from religions,we must obey and love our parents because it is their right,they did their best when we were young and we should repay their tributes.

i ask allah to give me the strenghth to make my parents happy like they did and do and will do forever................