Lydia Davis’s “Blind Date” presents a person who cannot let go of a moment in the past, the blind date. She continues to talk about it well into her adult life after she is clearly a successful adult. She keeps trying to piece her past together. Do you think she is coming to terms with her past?

Although the woman in the short story “Blind Date” by Lydia Davis recounts her experience again and again, it doesn't seem to help her come to terms with her past. If she truly came to terms with what happened, she would forget it and leave it behind, but instead she brings it up to the story's narrator on three different occasions at different locations. Her unkind treatment of the boy who asked to date her is obviously still haunting her.

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In the short story "Blind Date" by Lydia Davis, a woman tells the passive unnamed narrator, possibly the author herself, about an experience with a blind date when she was about 15 or 16 years old. The experience obviously had a profound effect on her because she brings it up over and over again, first at a café or restaurant where they sit together, then on a vacation to the Adirondacks, and finally in a phone conversation.

The story begins with a seemingly unrelated anecdote about a boy who gives her a gift of a book. Since she didn't like the book, she never went out with the boy again. At the end of the story, she tells the narrator that the only things she was interested in when she was young were "boys and books."

Concerning the blind date, a boy calls her and asks to take her out to dinner, and she agrees. She then has second thoughts. She is concerned that the boys consider her "fast." Normally, she trusts boys more than girls, but she doesn't like the idea of them talking about her. For this reason, she has mixed feelings about going out on the date.

When the boy arrives, she doesn't answer the door. Instead, she spies on him from the fourth floor balcony. She never answers the door or responds to his phone calls. She confesses to the narrator that back then she practiced avoidance and lying, although she doesn't do these things anymore. Later, when she talks to the narrator on the phone, she says that she might be able to get more details of the encounter from her diaries, but she's not sure.

We can see that the woman is obviously fixated on this experience when she stood up the boy, even though it happened so long ago. She may feel deep guilt that she stood him up or feelings of inadequacy due to being unable to follow through with the date.

Now we come to the question. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, to "come to terms with" in this context means "to become adjusted especially emotionally or intellectually." Because the woman brings the blind date up again and again to the narrator on three separate occasions separated by considerable amounts of time, we have to conclude that though she may be trying to come to terms with her past in retelling the story over and over, she is not succeeding. Somehow the experience still haunts her. Maybe she puts herself in the boy's shoes and realizes that it would be intolerable for her if she were similarly stood up. Just telling about it repetitively doesn't seem to help.

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