In The Lovely Bones, how do they each experience loneliness and solitude after Susie's death?
Rape is one of the most alienating experiences imaginable. Susie's rape ends in murder and changes her family and friends forever. Alienation is transferred, in a sense, to Susie's parents and siblings. How do they each experience loneliness and solitude after Susie's death?
The parent's behavior begins as normal grief processes. What confounds me, however, is the actions of the mother. She loses a huge chunk of her family--in a sense a piece of herself. Yet rather than clinging to what she has left, she chooses the alienation of beginning an affair, and running out on her family.
I think it's a bit of both because they both miss their daughter unconditionally and they both blame themselves for not being able to keep her safe. The fact that she was so young could account for why the parents blame themselves in a sense she was still a baby. So the parents hold them self accountable for not caring or protecting her enough. The fact of the matter though is they could not have stopped what happened from happening though , they were not to know that Mr Harvey was a rapist and a murderer he looked innocent enough.
"It is because of this hole the parents begin blame each other for their loss. "
isn't blame themselves?
For the parent and the siblings of Susie are forced to accept that there is a gaping hole in the family. It is because of this hole the parents begin blame each other for their loss. Instead of turning to each other the parents go outside of their relationship to find support or comfort. The mother has an affair. The father gets lost in either finding his daughter's killer or trying to memorialize her year after year. The sister and the brother struggling adjust to their new positions in the family.