In the community, there is no love. The most significant disadvantage of the family unit is that people do not experience either romantic or familial love. There are no spouses in the sense that we know them. People do not fall in love and marry. A man or a woman decides to raise children, as a duty more than anything, and applies for a spouse so that a suitable child-rearing partner can be found. The family exists only to raise the two children, a boy and a girl. After the man and woman decide they are ready they apply for a child, and a boy or girl is given to them to raise. After the youngest child grows up, the family unit disbands and the adults go to live with the other childless adults. The adults do not love each other.
As the man and woman do not love each other, they also do not love their children. When Jonas asks his parents if they love him, he is scolded for using imprecise language. His parents tell him they are proud of him and enjoy him, but of course they do not love him. There is no love in the community, including familial love.
The advantage of this arrangement is that there are no broken families. There is no divorce, and no unwanted children. Everything is carefully arranged to ensure that the adults are compatible, and capable of providing a supportive environment for the children while they are with them. Since there is no love, there is also none of the pain associated with losing it.
Jonas’s community do not allow any deep emotions. Love, too. The most significant disadvantage of the family unit, is that, people do not experience either romantic,or familial love. They find themselves as a responsible person to raise the child to the community, not themselves. Not because they fall in love and marry with somebody , eventually they don’t love their child as well. The community selects the spouses for you, and if you want any children, you apply for a child (one girl and one boy for each unit).You see, it’s not your child, the mother never gets pregnant (though there’s no passions as well, passions blocked by medicines that you must take). The family is seen as a duty, and exists only to raise the two children. Because there is no love, after the youngest child grows up, the family unit disbands and the adults go to live with the other childless adults.Nobody talks their family individuals again, after their separation, unless they run across on the road..