In To the Lighthouse, what are examples of different kinds of love as Freud defines love?
The different types of love are based upon three distinct things:
Decision/Commitment-you know you love someone and you want to maintain that love.
Intimacy-you feel close and connected
Passion-a strong drive involving sex, romance, or being close
Using these three main components, we get the different types of love.
Companionate Love-intimacy + decision/commitment
Fatuous Love-passion + decision/commitment
Romantic Love-intimacy + passion
The purest form of love is Consummate Love, and it is made up of all three of the love components: decision/commitment, intimacy, and passion. This type of love gives us the kinds of loving relationships that last a lifetime because they are stable, strong, and well-founded. Consummate love carries people through the happy/sad, the ups/downs, the joys/sorrows, and all the in-betweens. It is the best kind of love to have and also the hardest to attain!