A woman's place is wherever she chooses it to be. Of course, this statement needs to be qualified. If the woman is a normal person with average intelligence, she will go where her responsibilities take her. If she has chosen to be a homemaker, then obviously that is where she will spend her time. Carpe Diem…seize the opportunity to choose whatever she wants to do. No outsider should make a woman feel bad for the decision to choose family over career or vice versa.
Providing a home for a husband and children is a full time job. From washing, cleaning, cooking, helping with homework, and satisfying the husband—this is a complete work day. Of course, not all of the tasks are required every day, but diligence prevents the work from getting too far ahead. This kind of life also enables the woman if she chooses to commit to clubs or volunteering outside the home. This is not a life of leisure, but it does open a different set of opportunities to be more involved in her children's or husband's lives.
There are studies that show that if the mother stays home and obligates her time to her children then the lives of the children may be more productive and less strained. One woman described her experiences as a homemaker:
Stay-at-home moms are busy, and they work 24/7. There are no business trips, no financial rewards or incentives to do better. There is no bonus at the end of the year, and almost no one ever takes you to lunch, pats you on the back, and says thank you -- although I cannot tell you the number of times teachers have pulled me aside and told me not to go back to work if I can help it because my kids were great and well-adjusted, and the teachers couldn't say the same for my kids' classmates.
On the other hand, I personally tried to do be a "superwoman" and wear several hats. My husband was a teacher and did not make enough money for us to survive without my paycheck. I struggled to teach and then come home and be a mother and a wife.
I was a good teacher, a good mother, but a poor wife. Since I taught English, I spent almost every night grading. In addition, I was one of the teachers who prepared for the next day’s class each night and was on stage the entire day.
Many of our meals were fast foods. Many nights were spent helping the daughter, grading my papers, and going to bed too tired to have any kind of life with my husband. Consequently, after twenty-five years, he found someone who was devoted totally to him. Not all of it was entirely my fault, but I certainly would not qualify for wife of any year.
My point is that whatever choice that the woman makes there will be sacrifices.
Of course, those women who have decided to be a career person and forego the children or even the husband, I say: “Good for them.” In my day, that really was not even a consideration. A young woman married, and most of them did not work. I was too immature to see that I was approaching my life with the wrong priorities. What is the old cliché “Hindsight is 20-20”? Seeing what a person is doing wrong is perfectly easy to see once the situation has passed...
Back, to the topic, in today’s world, the woman should choose wisely what she wants to do in her life. There are so many opportunities. It is her responsibility to look at all of the possibilities and make a wise decision that will not adversely impact anyone else.
- Homemaker-devoted to her husband and children
- Career/homemaker-attempting to be superwoman with work, home, husband, and children
- Career person-Pledging her life to the work life that she loves
The woman’s place is wherever she chooses.