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I just got seperated from my mom How and what can I do to help with the stress?

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I can imagine that this is a very stressful situation.

The first thing I would suggest that you do is learn to relax. This can be done by learning certain breathing exercises and engaging in activities that relax you, such as reading a book, exercising or listening to music.

Something else you can do is treat your body good. This can be done by eating well balanced meals and getting lots of exercise and plenty of sleep.

In addition, try to keep your mind optimistic. If you find that your thoughts are getting you down, then start thinking about more positive things.

And most importantly, don't forget that you have a support system. There are teachers, guidance counselors, and even help lines you can always contact if you need to .

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Normally, I don't answer these types of questions.  I just don't feel that there is anything I can say to help with such a painful condition.  In this instance, I can tell you that while it seems like you will not be able to endure this challenge, I believe that people can persevere through such harrowing conditions in order to triumph over them.  William Faulkner came up with that idea and I think that it might help you in this setting.  Ensuring that you have a really strong and stable support network will be critical.  As previously mentioned, being able to speak to others who are close to you in this time will be good.  If you cannot speak to your mom, being able to write letters to her, expressing how you feel, how you feel about her, and how you think this trying situation will impact you later on in life will be critical for you.  I think being able to express these thoughts, and not repress them will be essential.  I think that being able to tell your teachers at school might also be good.  I only suggest this because the more comfortable you are with being able to appropriate the situation through talking about it with others might be able to allow you to assert some level of control in a situation that does not have a great deal of it for you.  I wish you nothing but the best.

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I agree with the advice that you have already been given, and I want to emphasize that it is CRITICAL that you communicate. If you are still in a place where you can speak to your Mom, do so regularly. Speak with your Dad as well. But do so without placing blame. It is OK to feel angry or hurt about the situation, but realize that it is likely not YOUR fault that the situation exists. If you were separated because your parents separated, realize that they were doing what was best for them, and while it may hurt you now. it has nothing to DO with you, really. If you can keep things in perspective, it will make it MUCH easier foe you to communicate openly and honestly. When you do speak with your parents about the situation, be careful of your phrasing - saying "I am feeling hurt" is MUCH better than saying "You hurt me" for it focuses attention on how you are feeling without starting a blame game.

Aside from your parents, do keep open lines of communication with teachers, friends you trust, and even the guidance counselor at your school. Also, WRITE!! When you feel the most stressed, instead of blowing up at someone, write about it. Then, put it away for 24hrs and come back and reread what you wrote. Sometimes, that distance alone is enough to help you put it all into a better perspective.


Best wishes!

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