im really slow student and i dont now to to do good in school i try to but then i give up i need help?:(all i need is someone to explain to me how i can be better in schoool my parents dont speak...

im really slow student and i dont now to to do good in school i try to but then i give up i need help?:(

all i need is someone to explain to me how i can be better in schoool my parents dont speak english at all and they never went to school

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Ashley Kannan eNotes educator| Certified Educator

The previous posts really were what this whole issue is about.  I have little else to add, but as a teacher, I truly believe that students who learn how to fight through the difficult times invariably end up better than those who don't experience hardship.  I think that asking your teachers for individual help would be the first step.  I know that this could be really daunting and kind of freaky, but going to them privately and saying exactly what you said here will be perfect.  If this doesn't fit your style, write them a note, exactly what you said here, and ask them for help.  Another avenue would be to see if you can participate or form a study group with other students, or colleagues with whom you feel comfortable.  Asking questions on enotes here would be another option for you.  The web is perfectly made for situations like this.  Just look at what you have here:  Almost a half dozen teachers have expressed their support for you in both emotional and academic ways.  No matter what will happen, please do not lose heart and become silent.  This is the toughest period you might have endured, but when you become older and face even more challenging situations, moments like this will be critical in building your character.  Continue to use your voice in advocating for yourself in as many ways as possible and good things will not be far behind.  Best wishes as you fight through and please continue to consider posting your thoughts or questions on enotes so you can be heard.

englishteacher72 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

High school can be very difficult, but you just need to find the right people to help you through it.  I would try several different resources that I'm sure your school has to offer you.  First, I would talk to your guidance counselor.  He or she may have some study tips that might help you in your classes, or he or she may even be able to set you up with a tutor after school who can help make homework and studying a bit more helpful for you.  Also, do you feel like you have at least one teacher you can trust?  I am certain that your teachers also want you to succeed.  You should approach them and tell them how you feel.  I know that when a student is brave enough to come to me on their own and say, "I need help," I make certain that I go out of my way to get them the help they need.  The Internet is also a great help for high school students.  Just look at this site--you have teachers and other students who might know about a particular subject and can help you out!  Just remember: your teachers are there to help you.  All you need to do is ask!  Don't be afraid; it's their job!  Don't give up!

pohnpei397 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I wish I were smart enough to tell you for sure how to become a good student without knowing anything about you.  But I'm not that smart.  My best advice is:

  • Try to figure out what it is that is giving you trouble.  Is it one class?  Is it a problem with not speaking English well enough?  If you can figure out what your biggest problem is, maybe you can work on it.  Maybe you could ask a teacher that you trust to help you figure this out.
  • Try to find out if your school offers any kinds of tutoring programs that could help you.
  • Talk to a counselor at your school about how you might get more help.  You may not like talking to them because it's embarassing to ask for help and all, but they will be more likely than us to be able to tell you what kind of help you can get at your school and in your community.
  • More than anything, keep trying and don't give up!
M.P. Ossa eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I am so sorry that you feel that way, but you are NOT slow.

It is the school's responsibility to find what you need to succeed. First, speak to your counselor, and ask what is available for both you and your parents.

Second, use the internet to help you. For reading comprehension go to, and help yourself push forward.

For MATH, go to google and type: National Library of Virtual Manipulatives.

For Science, go to google and look up Discovery Education.

You are welcome to visit my website for your parents to get help with English

I hope you get all the help you are owed. Keep it up! They used to say Einstein was slow as well ;)

arrellbelle | Student

I'm a college student right now and I can tell you my parents did not graduate from high school or college and they are not fluent in English at all. I had to rely on myself most of the time. However, it seems you are having a problem and I think you should talk to your teacher about giving you one on one lessons. I also think you should ask a friend to help you or study together because studying with peers and seeing how they think really helps for a student to try to understand.

hermionegranger | Student

hold strong to your values and beliefs. be nice and polite but you dont have to agree with everyone. do your homework, study, get along with students and teachers. try to be friends with them. be honest and be yourself. work hard, but relax and play. get plenty of sleep. dont get too stress or you wont help yourself or others. be confident and listen. take good notes. ask for help. study what you need help with, ask teachers too. you will do great. :)

epollock | Student

Try to think about the goals that you want to obtain and the objectives that you have for yourself. Mmaybe they are too high or unachievable. Make realistic goals and objectives and find out what you truly want to discover.

tanhaa | Student
I personaly think,God has provided you an oppurtunity to enlighten yourself.Believe in these fighting words: I will do it. I will do it better. I will,do it again and again ,unless i am satisfied.Ask a teacher to help you .Your problem is not a big problem.I would advise you to watch news on any tv channel and see the pain etched on the faces of the people in the war zones.Take a deep breath, and think positively that "it is great to be alive".And start your school assignments with a new valour.You will win !
epollock | Student


Whenever students tell me the same thing, I help them make a plan. It's actually a very simple plan on what they want to accomplish. It must be realistic and attainable, and doing it should give you an inner sense of accomplishment. I know how hard it is to complete different tasks for so many classes, and at times it may be frustrating.  But try to make small improvements at a time, and you should be doing fine by the time you graduate.

If you can, try to obtain the book, Becoming a Master Student by Dave Ellis. He explains the concepts that you have to understand to be a great student. And, if you read the book, they can be great fun. The book contains practice in the following areas:

1.Taking Small steps

It should help you out tremendously. Let me now how your progress goes.

mgidlof | Student

Maybe ask for help i have troubles to with school and i know i need extra help

mkcapen1 | Student

I am a teacher who teaches students who struggle in school.  I have found some thing that help. 

If you can not write fast make some small sketches to help you to recall what the teacher has said.

Use graphic organizers for all of your lessons, even math and science.

If your television has subtitles turn them on and read them when you watch TV.  When I had to learn another language I watched the TV with subtitles and then began to use the words better.

Ask for help from everyone available.  Don't be shy about it.  You have taken the right step on this site.

Don't give up.  You need to believe in yourself.  One of my daughter's had a learning disability and did not read until she was 13.  She found her talents in a different way and lives a good life with a good income.

Surround yourself with smart people.  If you develop friendships with others who have better skills, you can get them to help you to learn.

I know it is hard but don't give up.  You are a perfect creation.  Your parents have chosen to try and give you a better life.  Language may come hard for them since they are now adults, but your mind is growing and developing.