Hypothesis about bullies -- how come the parents don't stop this?Hypothesis about bullies -- how come the parents don't stop this?

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pohnpei397 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

My hypothesis would be that there are at least three reasons why parents do not stop their kids from bullying others.

  • They are not aware that it is going on.  Parents are not always around their kids and don't know what their kids are doing so they may not know their kids are bullies.
  • They may not believe it's a problem.  Either they don't believe it when the school tells them their kid is bullying or they think that bullying is just a normal thing.  People didn't think it was so terrible for years and years and so some parents may not think it's bad.
  • They may be unable to control their kids.  It is not as if parents can really make their kids act in some way.  If there were a fool proof way to make kids act the way you wanted, parents would have way less stress.
besure77 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Bullying unfortunately happens every day. Many times kids are ashamed to tell anyone that they are being bullied. Also, there are parents out there who believe that bullying is just a part of growing up. The truth is that bullying has become increasingly more severe over the years. In addition to this, there are other forms of bullying that exist today, such as cyber bullying.

I think that there are a few reasons that parents do not stop bullying. First, they may not know that it is happening. Second, they may encourage it. And third, they may know that it is happening but they do not know how to stop it or deal with it.

Lori Steinbach eNotes educator| Certified Educator

All good ideas presented so far.  I know that bullying is allowed in some homes, as well.  It's called "kidding around" and it's seen as a way of making kids tougher and more able to handle things outside of the home.  Older brother tormenting younger brother (or sisters, whatever) is often seen as normal when, in fact, it may rise to the level of bullying.  If that's accepted at home, we should not be surprised at an increased level of tolerance elsewhere. 

lrwilliams eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Another reason may be that the parents are bullies also. The parents do not see anything wrong with what the kids are doing because they were and are the same way. It is not their fault their kid is self-confident and stands up for what they think. I have heard that argument from several parents.