How to write a self reflection essay?
A reflection essay which, by definition, is a self-reflection essay differs from other types of essays in that it focuses on your feelings and perceptions about a subject that is unique to you. Your instructor's goal or purpose for this essay is most likely to give you the opportunity to speak in the first-person ("I") about a subject or experience that has a deeply personal meaning for you and to see if you can convey your feelings or perceptions in concrete terms to your audience.
Although the subject for reflection essays is usually open to the student, your instructor may have given you several possible topics for the reflection--for example, discussing an experience or person who changed your life in some dramatic manner--and, if this is the case, choose one of these unless you have something significantly better to write about. The essence of a successful reflection essay is a topic that your readers can relate to, and your job is to provide sufficient details about what you think and feel about your topic. I often suggest, for example, that if any students have had what is known as a "coming of age" experience--that is, an experience the changes a child-like perception to a more adult perception--that is a perfect subject for reflection.
A reflection essay first must describe the subject of the reflection, usually, an event or person, but then it becomes an open exploration of what that event or person means to you, not to people in general. Above all else, keep in mind that the essay is intensely personal, and you will be writing in the first person ("I"), which may at first seem uncomfortable because you may have been taught never to use first-person. Your readers, however, are interested not in a general discussion but in your own perceptions and reactions to an experience, and you must be willing to open yourself to the process and discuss aspects of an experience that might be both positive and negative. A reflection essay, then, may conclude on a happy note and, conversely, it may end with a "lessons learned" that is not necessarily upbeat but reflects your perception of the experience or person.
Concrete details in this type of essay are very important. A vague description of the event or person will lead to a reader's vague understanding of how you have reflected on the experience or person you are describing. For every general observation or reflection you make, support it with a highly detailed example that makes the observation vivid and concrete in the reader's mind. Remember always that you and your experience are at the heart of the reflection essay, and only you can adequately convey your own reflection process. If, for example, you tell the reader that an experience troubled you, illustrate what "troubled" means with a concrete, specific description.
Last, keep in mind that reflection essays do not have "right" answers--they describe an experience that is unique to you and, by nature, your reflection may or may not conclude with any definitive statement--in other words, you may always be reflecting on an experience and drawing different conclusions from that experience as you grow older.
The word "essay" comes from the French, and it originally meant something like "an attempt." An essay is an attempt to express ideas or feelings about one thing or another. It started with Michel de Montaigne (1533-1592) and became popular with writers and readers because the form offers so much variety and so much freedom of expression. There can be no hard and fast rules for writing essays because they are supposed to offer freedom for the writer to say whatever he or she feels like saying--or trying to say.
What I am writing now is a sort of essay. I am trying to say put some thoughts and feelings into words without knowing exactly where I'm going--and not particularly caring, either. In writing an essay you discover what you think while you're writing. You can't think the whole thing out in your head and then write it all down. You have to think and write, and write and think.
Emerson wrote a lot of essays, and he says somewhere that the writer doesn't always know where he is going and often ends up someplace other than where he expected to be. So essay writing is a sort of adventure, a voyage of discovery. You can make up your own form and have some fun. There should be an introduction and a conclusion, but you don't have to write the introduction first and the conclusion last. A lot of people get stuck with introductions--because how can they know what they're going to say before they've said it?
You need to get words on paper. You can always rearrange them, and it's really easy if you're using a word processor. Read the last chapter in Strunk and White's The Elements of Style. It's a very short book, and it's full of good advice.
James Thurber was one of the best prose writers in America. He has often been quoted as saying:
Don't get it right. Get it written.
Thurber confessed that the first drafts of his essays and other short pieces looked like they had been written by somebody who was drunk on cooking sherry. But he was a perfectionist, like his friend and colleague E. B. White. Thurber honed and polished his words until he was satisfied with the final draft. No doubt he wrote many drafts before that happened. A writer should expect to write several drafts of any piece of writing.
Holden Caulfield has some good advice about writing essays for school assignments in The Catcher in the Rye.
- Take it seriously: When the entire paper is about you and your thoughts, it will be easier to detect is you are not being genuine or true to self. Try to take the assignment seriously and really think before you write.
- Don’t ramble: It is good that you are digging deep to think of what you want to say, but keep in mind that this is still an essay, not a diary entry. This means that your writing should still have a central idea or purpose and not be you discussing any profound feeling that comes to mind as you write.