How would you guys judge a lady by? Personailty, skin, body Whats ur thoughts!!

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brettd | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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I am very attracted to intelligence, confidence, empathy, and compassion as well as to physical factors.  As others have said, looks will fade for all of us, but these other qualities and characteristics can be and usually are lifelong.  I also find they are a great window into who a person really is.

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vangoghfan | College Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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I agree that answers to this question will differ.  Attraction rooted simply in looks is not likely to last, since looks rarely last and in fact can change astonishingly quickly. I saw, in a recent issue of Time magazine a projection of how Angelina Jolie will look before too long, and it was a bit depressing (but also realistic). Therefore, relationships rooted in mere physical attraction are likely to be bumpy and more temporary than those rooted in attraction to someone's personality.  One's personality can actually improve over time; one's looks rarely if ever do.

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readerofbooks | College Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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As you can see, all people differ. There is no one way to answer this question. However, I would say that for most younger people, people judge each other by looks. It is just a part of our culture. We live in a superficial world and our media, music, and movies reinforce this. It is unfortunate, because we are much more than our looks.

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lffinj | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Assistant Educator

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Men are visual.  They need to be attracted to someone first.  Long straight hair, weight and skin all play a role in the initial attraction.  People who realize that looks are only skin deep know that physical attraction only goes so far.  The need for compatability in values (social, political, financial), sense of humor, intelligence and backgrounds all play a part in keeping a relationship going beyond the initial "wow" factor.

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stolperia | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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If there are lots of responses that say skin and/or body are the most important priorities, I'm going to be really disappointed in eNotes readers. While the physical aspects of a relationship do need to be considered, the personality of an individual is so much more important in the overall picture! Shared interests, compatible attitudes, common hopes for the future are harder to change than body appearance and more critical to building a successful relationship.

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litteacher8 | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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I agree that for attraction to turn into something more, there has to be a deeper compatibility. Culturally, people seem to think that they should have someone with the approximately same level of attractiveness, so one is not more attractive than the other.
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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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Attraction can happen in many ways.  You can see someone and think she is really beautiful in terms of her face and body.  That can motivate you to get to know her at which point, hopefully, you become attracted to her personality as well.

It can happen the other way too.  You can start out liking someone for their personality and have it grow into a more romantic/physical attraction.

In order to have a lasting relationship, you need to be attracted to someone both physically and emotionall/personality-wise.

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najm1947 | Elementary School Teacher | (Level 1) Valedictorian

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Judging a Lady! Well it is something more than the physical appearance. Though skin and body count as these attribute are a part of the personality. One encounters these features in addition to the way she is dressed up at the first glance but these attributes are superfluous.

The main aspect for me to judge a lady is how she conducts herself in the given situation - the way she talks, body language, attitude, dressing up for an occasion, her composure, sence in what she talks and so on. Just physical appearance - No way, not with me at least.

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wanderista | Student, Grade 11 | (Level 2) Valedictorian

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As much as someone may deny it, you judge a person on general appearance, demeanour and personality, compatibility and financial income, some criteria more stressed than others. I

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