It would be difficult to cover all of children's literature. In fairytales, young females were always abused and endangered by older women ("stepmothers") and needed a handsome prince to save them. Snow White is housekeeping for seven "men" who go off to work, and they love her for her care of them, and protect her. Not surprising that this image is that of the "liberation" of women in the 1980s.
Modern day literature for children doesn't seem (as has been my experience) to create these rigid stereotypes. There are probably two reason. First, society is not looking for daughters to be taught to stay home and keep house, or to be overly dependent upon a man: today households often require two incomes. Secondly, authors want to appeal to readers of both genders. In Skellig, by David Almond, for instance, both Michael and Mina are "different," but each in his or her own way is not only smart, but kind and generous. It's a win-win situation. Both are heroes: the novel engages boys and girls.