how to use deal with others?I usually try to use the soul force with others but then I feel that I'm not doing that properly so plzz advise me how to deal with others in a good way?? 

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mwestwood eNotes educator| Certified Educator

The poet and scientist Johann Wolfgang von Goethe observed that man is a herd animal who does not wish to be part of a herd.  Thus, man is forever in conflict with his own nature.  And, since he is innately in conflict with himself, it is difficult to deal with him.

"There is no greater love than charity" is, indeed, good advice for one's endeavors with others.  Not always being insistent upon having to be the one above all others at something is wise, often, too.  Considering others feelings before one's own; having manners is usually a sound way to deal with other people.  However, since others often are self-centered and demanding for their desires, it is, indeed, difficult to deal with such people. One teacher always told her classes, "Good manners is no more than considering the feelings of others before acting."

pohnpei397 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

It's hard to do this when we have no idea about how you are dealing with others and in what situations.

Sadly, the only kind of generic advice that is possible (to me) is that you have to have the self-discipline to treat all people the way you would want them to treat you.  The hard part there is having the self-discipline.

You'll hear all sorts of techniques, like trying to put yourself in their shoes and trying to understand how your actions will affect them.  But what it all comes down to is having the self-discipline to do what you know is right.  Sadly, there are no easy ways to achieve that.

ask996 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

We cannot change others; we can only change ourselves. So ask yourself before saying anything "Will what I say make a situation better?" If the answer is no, don't say it. Ask yourself before taking an action "Will this make the world better?" If the answer is no, don't do it. Your motivation when making choices is also important. We can do good things with the wrong motivation and the impact is lessoned in our lives and those of others because the intention was not sincere.

litteacher8 eNotes educator| Certified Educator
What is soul force? I like the sound of it. To me it sounds like you are trying to be a good person, and setting an example that you hope others will follow. Since you really CAN'T change others, that seems as good a method as any when you have a conflict.

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