How is Jonas’s relationship with the Giver different from his relationship with his family unit?

Jonas's relationship with the Giver is different from his relationship with his family unit because he can be more honest about his thoughts, experiences, and dreams with the Giver than with his family. As a Receiver, by opening up to sensations and memories, he learns to how he will uniquely serve his society. His required silence about the training also separates him from his family and forces him to confront unpleasant truths.

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The relationship that Jonas develops with the Giver is unlike any he has ever known before. Jonas’s assigned role as a Receiver places him the position of learning from the Giver, which puts him in tune with both entirely new sensations and others that he had previously experienced but suppressed. Jonas had been appropriately fond of his parents and sister. His role and behaviors in the family were well within the established boundaries of the community, and his parents had complied with the rules and regulations. His father’s changing attitude and behavior toward Gabriel nearly coincided with Jonas’s selection as Receiver.

As his relationship with the Giver allows ways for Jonas to get more in touch with himself, it also contributes to distancing him from his family. Jonas had been unaware that there were so many emotions and ideas. While some of these are unique to him, others had been widespread in society before uniform standards were imposed. As the bearer of all memories, he will be privileged to receive information that no one else has access to. The Giver instructs Jonas not to tell his family what he learns in the trainings. The requirement of silence contributes to distancing him from his parents. However, the specific information that he gains about his father’s role in Release spurs his break not only from his family, but the whole community, except for Gabriel.

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