The dignity of his estate reflects the sort of person he is. When her aunt and uncle approve of him--when Darcy accepts her family on his turf, she understands he is less proud than she thought him to be. In addition, she learns about Darcy from the point of view of his servant, who has every opportunity to complain about him or gossip in negative ways. However, to the contrary, the servant praises him as generous, kind, and in every way the gentleman. By reading the letter he sent her that explained his behavior, she had already begun to forgive him and know him better, and when she visits Pemberley, she realizes that she deeply respects and cares for this man.