That Tom is dominated by his mother is obvious in the Scene 1 of "The Glass Menagerie." It opens with his mother calling him to dinner, "We can't say grace until you come." Having come to the table, Tom is then criticized by Amanda for his eating habits. Tom responds to all this criticism,
I haven't enjoyed one bit of this dinner because of your constant directions on how to eat it. It's you that makes me rush through meals with your hawk-like attention to every bite I take."
There is obvious tension between him and his mother. This tension increases in Scene 3 as before the stage is lighted, "the violent voices of TOM and AMANDA are heard." When Tom curses, Amanda become very offended and calls Tom an "idiot." He tells Amanda that he has nothing "in my life here that I can call my own!" Amanda has taken a novel by D.H.Lawrence that Tom has been reading back to the library because she is offend by its contents. Irate at her actions, Tom says that he is going out. Amanda insists that he will listen to her. Tom returns and tells her that he, too, is at the end of his patience. He has been doing what she wants him to do. Revealing that he is unhappy at his job, he tells his mother,
I'd rather somebody picked up a crowbar and battered out my brains--than go back mornings! I go. Every time you come in yelling that God damn ' Rise and Shine!' I say to myself, 'How lucky dead people are!'....Why listen, if self is what I thought of, Mother, I'd be where he is--GONE! [He points to his father's picture.]
In Scene 4, the tension between Tom and his mother increases after he stays out late. The next morning his mother will not speak to him. In the stage directions,
TOM glances sheepishly but sullenly at her averted figure and slumps at the table.
When Tom apologizes to his mother, she justifies her overbearing behavior because she has
had to put up a solitary battle all these years. But you're my right-hand bower! Don't fall down, don't fail!
Tom gently tells her that he does try. Amanda then tells Tom that Laura has cried and said that her brother is not happy in the apartment with them. She urges him not to take after his father's ways. Tom replies that he has much that he cannot "describe" to her, but he loves adventure and so he goes to the movies because he cannot get any excitement at the warehouse. When Amanda resumes her querulous attitude toward him,Tom retaliates,
Man is by instinct a lover, a hunter, a fighter, and none of those instincts are given much play at the warehouse!
Amanda mentions that she has seen his letter from the Merchant Marine; she warns him against what he is dreaming of: "But until that time you've got to look out for your sister."
Tom asks "What can I do about it?" and Amanda tells him to "overcome selfishness." Tom gets up, grabs his coat, and says, "I'm too late to--" However, when Amanda insists that Tom find a man at the warehouse who can call for his sister, Tom calls back, "YES!" as he leaves again.
Although Tom appears to be caring about his sister, the responsibilities of being the only man of the household and the dismal job he has are too much for him; he simply wants out of his confining situation.
Tom is first introduced to the audience in the first scene when he comes on stage at the very beginning of the play and gives the prologue. He gives the audience so background to the play and reveals that the play is told from his memory. Since he is usually dresses as a merchant seaman, we know early on that he probably left the family. However, we have no real idea why until the play continues. By the end of Act I, scene one, we have a pretty good idea that Tom feels stifled by his mother. In Act I, Scene III, we can see Tom's frustration during his argument with his mother over going to the movies. His final statement to his mother, called her "an ugly, babbling, witch" shows his ultimate frustration at not being allowed any freedom at home. And yet in the next scene, we see Tom returning to Laura. Even though he is very frustrated by his situation, he continues to return to his home because of his relationship with his sister. During their conversation in Act I, Scene IV, we can see close Tom is to his sister when he confides in her about feeling he is "nailed up" in a coffin. This frustration continues until the final scene when Tom is blamed for the fiasco with Jim, the "gentleman caller". He has finally reached the end of his rope and leaves his mother and sister permanently. However, we can still see his attachment to his sister with his final words, " Oh, Laura, Laura, I tried to leave you behind but I have been more faithful than I intended to be. Then, Tom shows his understanding that Laura will never really be normal with words, "Blow out your candles."