How does Friar Laurence respond to Romeo's behavior in act 3, scene 3 of Romeo and Juliet?

In Romeo & Juliet, Friar Laurence responds to Romeo's overly dramatic behavior in act 3 scene 3 by chiding him. Secretly wed to Juliet, Romeo is awaiting knowledge of what his punishment will be for killing Tybalt. Friar Laurence tells Romeo he is banished from Verona, and Romeo thinks it's the end of the world. Friar Laurence thinks he ought to be grateful he wasn't put to death.

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In act 3, scene 3 of the Shakespearean tragedy Romeo & Juliet, Romeo has killed Tybalt and is awaiting news of his punishment. He has also secretly wed Juliet at this point. Friar Laurence gives Romeo the news that he is to be banished from Verona. Romeo says that he would rather be dead, in this famous line:

Ha, banishment! Be merciful, say “death,”

For exile hath more terror in his look,

Much more than death. Do not say “banishment.”

Friar Laurence becomes frustrated with him:

O deadly sin! O rude unthankfulness!
Thy fault our law calls death, but the kind Prince,
Taking thy part, hath rushed aside the law,
And turned that black word “death” to “banishment.”
This is dear mercy, and thou seest it not.

Friar Laurence feels that Romeo should be relieved to hear that his punishment was not death. When Romeo makes his dramatic proclamations, such as the idea that there is no life for him beyond Verona's walls and that even flies have more freedom than he does because they can touch Juliet's skin and he can't, the Friar scolds him for being ungrateful.

When the nurse knocks at the door, Friar Laurence orders Romeo to hide because he is fearful that Romeo will be taken away and suffer a worse punishment if he is found. The Friar is relieved to find it is only the nurse, inquiring about how Romeo is doing. He tells her that Romeo is getting drunk on his own tears.

In a long and exasperated speech, Friar Laurence tells Romeo that he is acting like an irrational beast and that he thought he was smarter than that. There is great use of figurative language in this speech when Friar Laurence says:

Thy wit, that ornament to shape and love,
Misshapen in the conduct of them both,
Like powder in a skill-less soldier’s flask,
Is set afire by thine own ignorance;
And thou dismembered with thine own defense."
Friar Laurence is saying to Romeo that he is like a soldier whose gunpowder explodes on him rather than on the enemy. The very things that Romeo should be using to protect himself end up killing him.
Friar Laurence goes on to give Romeo three reasons he should be grateful and not wallowing in the pit of despair. The first reason is Romeo should be happy is that Juliet is alive. Secondly, he should be happy that he was able to slay Tybalt, who was a much more experienced swordsman and was intent on killing Romeo. Lastly, he points out that the law called for him to die for his crimes, but he was shown mercy and given banishment instead.
After this, the Friar offers Romeo a plan to give him hope. He tells him to go to Mantua and wait while everyone's tempers cool down. He tells Romeo he will tell everyone that Romeo and Juliet are married, and he thinks that once the families find this out, they will welcome Romeo back and everyone will be happy. He believes the news of this marriage will end the enmity between the two families, which has caused so much trouble.
Friar Laurence is a father figure to Romeo and a trusted confidante. He loves Romeo—if he didn't, he wouldn't have bothered correcting him and coming up with a plan to rescue him from banishment. The Friar's advice seems sound, although it is perhaps naive. I believe he sincerely thinks this plan will work. However, as the events unfold, the situation gets farther away from anything the Friar can control.
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Romeo, impulsive, emotional, and living very much in the moment, is so distraught at being banished from Verona that he tells Friar Laurence he wants to kill himself.

As usual, Friar Laurence has to counsel Romeo to tamp down his overblown emotional fever. When Romeo mentions suicide, Friar Laurence rebukes him roughly, telling him he isn't making any sense. If he loves Juliet so much that he can't bear to be apart from her, and he is convinced she loves him, why would he even be thinking of putting her through the pain his suicide would cause her? Friar Laurence says,

Thy dear love sworn but hollow perjury,
Killing that love which thou hast vowed to cherish . . .

In other words, suicide would be a violation of the love he has sworn to Juliet and would show it to be a lie. If you love somebody, you don't hurt them that way.

Friar Laurence also tells Romeo he should be grateful the prince didn't have him executed for killing Tybalt, as he could have done. He advises Romeo to pull himself together, spend his wedding night with Juliet, and then leave Verona. Friar Laurence assures Romeo that he will reveal the secret of the wedding as soon as it makes sense to do so and plead with the prince to have mercy and allow Romeo to return. The friar is the level-headed adult who tries to get Romeo focused on coming up with a plan and thinking of tomorrow.

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Friar Lawrence tries to convince Romeo that he should be grateful he won’t be executed for killing Tybalt, instead of whining about being banished.

When Friar Lawrence tells him he is banished, Romeo says he would rather die.  Friar Lawrence chides him, telling him to be grateful that he has his life.  He tells him to get on with his life, and be patient because “the world is broad and wide.” 

O deadly sin! O rude unthankfulness!(25)

Thy fault our law calls death; but the kind Prince,

Taking thy part, hath rush'd aside the law,

And turn'd that black word death to banishment.

This is dear mercy, and thou seest it not. (Act 3, Scene 3)

Romeo throws himself on the floor and has a toddler-level tantrum, saying that he can’t live without Juliet.  Friar Lawrence is annoyed, calling him “mad,” and when someone comes to the door he tries to get him up.

Juliet’s Nurse arrives, and similarly scolds the blubbering Romeo.  They both tell him to be a man, at least for Juliet’s sake.  She explains that Juliet wants to marry Romeo anyway, and Friar Lawrence decides to go along with it and marry them in secret.

This scene demonstrates how immature Romeo is, and how much Nurse and Friar Lawrence coddle Juliet and Romeo.  By giving in to the young people's wishes, they may give them what they want, but there is no way they can sustain it and it only causes more problems later on.

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