How does family influence values and expectations?

Family influences values and expectations in that children observe their parents and internalize their values and expectations. Parents may teach values and expectations to their children directly by teaching them and indirectly by example. As many children spend much of their time with their families, families are often a primary source in the formation of values and expectations.

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Each child is born into a family with a unique culture. How many people live in the home, the holidays they celebrate, how they spend their free time, their beliefs about education, and numerous other factors contribute to a unique blend of values within a family that shapes how a...

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Each child is born into a family with a unique culture. How many people live in the home, the holidays they celebrate, how they spend their free time, their beliefs about education, and numerous other factors contribute to a unique blend of values within a family that shapes how a child spends his time and how he judges the world around him.

Children often learn to pattern their own behaviors, both positively and negatively, by watching how the adults in their lives handle various situations. They learn which behaviors lead to effective outcomes and which behaviors create difficulties. These early years of influence often become powerful indicators of later adult success. Studies show that about one-third of children who are abused become adults who abuse children. Although creating a pattern of abusive behavior is almost certainly not a parent's goal, a child's foundational sense of how relationships work can be forever shaped by these early experiences.

Within families, children learn what is important and what is not. They witness their parents' attempts to organize their lives and the time they allot to various aspects of family time. Whether conflicts are resolved around a dinner table or in bed at night (or are not resolved at all), children become aware of what their family values based on their parents' attentiveness to particular issues and the emotional responses they invest into areas of both interest and conflicts.

Piaget's theory of the Cognitive Stages of Development indicates that until about age eleven, children cannot think abstractly or fully consider concepts such as justice. Around this age, children can begin to consider the idea of various possibilities and are less rooted in tangible and concrete truths. Therefore, until the formal operational stage of development, children accept the values and expectations of their families without giving much thought to other possibilities.

Therefore, children will almost always integrate the values and expectations of their family into their own core sense of identity. These are the people with whom they spend the most time, and therefore a child's family will provide a model for children as they learn to navigate a complex world.

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Family is the foundation of society. With the breakdown of the family in recent decades, has come the breakdown of family values.  The beliefs and ethics that were brought down from grandparents and great-grandparents has been all but forgotten in this fast-paced world we currently live in.  Most people are only in it for themselves, so they don't stop to think about what sort of lessons htey can pass on to those who are less fortunate or those who need guidance.

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Children do not grow up in a vacuum. There are two ways that families influence values and expectations of their children: directly and indirectly. Parents directly teach their children values. This includes teaching right and wrong, religious education, teaching about interacting with people, and rules and expectations. Indirectly, parents indoctrinate and socialize their children by example. Children watch their parents interact with others, make choices and determine right and wrong for themselves, and this impacts how they develop their moral self.
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Family does have an influence on an individuals values and expectations. We learn from our parents or caregivers because they are our role models. This does not necessarily mean that we will carry these values throughout our entire lives though. As we grow, we have our own experiences that also shape our values and expectations.

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I would actually disagree with #6 - I do feel that while it is possible to form some values in rejection of the values of our parents, we are formed far more than we are aware of by our parents and the way they bring us up. Having kids myself has really taught me this - I use some of the same phrases with my kids that my parents used with me and which I swore I would never use! Not that they are necessarily bad but it does make you think. This stage of "primary socialisation" is incredibly influential and shapes a lot of the rest of our lives, which clearly has capacity for good and for bad.

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The family is a child’s first role model. Not only do we set examples for them and guide them in how to make good choices, we must also give them the opportunity to make important choices while they still have the safety net of the family to catch them.

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We are heavily influences my our parents since from the formative years all of our time is spent with them.  We are impressionable in our youth and spending most if not all of our time with our parents can influnece us in many ways.  If our parents are religious, we might take on those beliefs.  If our parents drink, smoke, do drugs, that can become a habit for the child.  We cannot choose our parents and we might be influenced in negative ways, so its up to the individual to discover their own values and expectations for themselves.

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When we are born, we are not born with a set of values and expectations, so we learn them from our parents or adults who raise us, primarily.  We learn not only through these adults teaching us, we learn by example and by watching/observing.  As we grow up and get to an age that we can understand what "values" are (and "expectations"), we can begin to internalize them.  However, we also can reject or test those values and expectations as children and young adults for many reasons, from doing so simply to be difficult to doing so knowing that we have done wrong, but want to see what it is like anyway.  Since we spend the most time with our families, they are the primary adults who influence our values and expectations for ourselves.

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