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How does Arnold Friend manipulate Connie?

Arnold Friendly manipulates Connie by threatening to hurt her family and by using his authority as an older male to make her believe complying with him is inevitable.

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Manipulation involves using someone as a tool to get what you want from them. It shows little or no concern for what is in the best interest of that person.

Arnold Friend manipulates Connie through threatening her family and implying that he has already murdered a woman down the...

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Manipulation involves using someone as a tool to get what you want from them. It shows little or no concern for what is in the best interest of that person.

Arnold Friend manipulates Connie through threatening her family and implying that he has already murdered a woman down the road. When she goes into the house to call the police, he warns her not to pick up the phone and says,

if you don't come out we're gonna wait till your people come home and then they're all going to get it.

But more than the threats, he manipulates Connie with his quiet, threatening, off-base insistence that she is fated to come with him. He presents it as a done deal from the start. He is thirty, and he projects a male authority and finality that he knows would be difficult for a teenage girl to resist. For instance, he says to her,

This is your day set aside for a ride with me and you know it.

He also tells her "I took a special interest in you."

By the end of the story, Arnold is increasing the pressure by putting together the inevitability of her complying with him and the safety of her family, saying:

It's all over for you here, so come on out. You don't want your people in any trouble, do you?

Like his real life model, the murderer Charles Schmid, Arnold Friend has a charismatic if very disturbed and frightening personality that exerts a hold over a girl like Connie, manipulating her to act against her own best interests.

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