How do you think the poet feels about his son?

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The speaker in "If" is concerned for his son, particularly for his ability to realize what being a man is all about. It's unclear whether these thoughts originated from some source of conflict or whether this is just the wisdom of a father dealing with a son who is growing into young adulthood. Regardless, the father approaches the advice with a warm and encouraging tone, so we know that he wants his son to learn these core truths about manhood so that he can differentiate between the truly important things in life and the distractions. Consider these lines:

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch
The speaker wants his son to realize how easy it is for men to lose their sense of morality when trying to appeal to the masses. And he also knows that, should his son find the success he dreams of, it is easy to lose sight of common and ordinary blessings and people. Thus, the speaker dreams of successful moments for his son, full of achievement. Yet he also wants his son to remain grounded in truths like keeping his head, not giving in to hatred, not talking "too wise," and holding on to life via sheer will when everything else in life fails him.
This sense of encouragement through an examination of the contrasting opportunities and experiences in life shows that the father realizes the struggles ahead of his son and wants to prepare him as best as possible for a truly successful life as a good man.

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