How do you think the poet feels about his son?
The speaker in "If" is concerned for his son, particularly for his ability to realize what being a man is all about. It's unclear whether these thoughts originated from some source of conflict or whether this is just the wisdom of a father dealing with a son who is growing into young adulthood. Regardless, the father approaches the advice with a warm and encouraging tone, so we know that he wants his son to learn these core truths about manhood so that he can differentiate between the truly important things in life and the distractions. Consider these lines:
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch
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