How do you get your parents to actually listen to you?

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Be respectful and obedient towards your parents. If you have a disagreement with them, you should remain humble, respectful, and listen to what they are telling you. Normally they are telling you something for your benefit. I do believe that if you respect your parents, they would often be glad...

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Be respectful and obedient towards your parents. If you have a disagreement with them, you should remain humble, respectful, and listen to what they are telling you. Normally they are telling you something for your benefit. I do believe that if you respect your parents, they would often be glad to listen to you. If the lines of communication are conflicted, perhaps go out to eat, go to a park, or just go to some relaxing place and gently bring up your concerns. If that doesn't work, I would suggest writing a letter to them to let them know what is on your mind.

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The best way to get your parents to listen to you is to listen to them. Remember that communication goes both ways. Communication is also cumulative. Do not just talk to each other about big things. Stay involved in one another's lives, and talk about day to day things as well as big things. When it comes to discussing big things, remember to openly share your feelings and concerns and also listen to theirs. If something is going to be difficult to say, rehearse it before you have the talk.
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What are you trying to accomplish? Are you trying to change something minor, or trying to do something that may be against what they believe in?

Usually the best way to get someone to listen is to stay calm, and to listen to them, as well. Yelling usually happens when one side or both is not really hearing what the other is saying. Have you considered writing down what you want to say? Sometimes seeing your words on paper helps you to see why your parents are getting upset.

There may be nothing you can do...if you are trying to get them to let you do something that is opposite of what they believe, it will be really difficult. I guess the main question is, how important is what you are trying to communicate? If it is something that you really believe in, and something important, you may need to have another adult help you out. Good luck  :)

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Talk to them, not at them, beneath or above them. If you really want to connect with your parents in conversation you must be able to show them that you respect them as much as you respect yourself and the topic of your conversation. There is an old saying, ' it's not so much what you say as how you say it'. In the end ask yourself this question, were your parents not hearing you or were you not satisifed with their answer? This is an important dynamic with regard to interaction and understanding relationships between people, including parents.

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