How do you deal with stress ?I am just curious how each one of us deals with daily stress - each one of us is unique in creation and has our own way of dealing with matter...some smoke,others do...

How do you deal with stress ?

I am just curious how each one of us deals with daily stress - each one of us is unique in creation and has our own way of dealing with matter...some smoke,others do yoga, or others still...let it go...But still we are stressed and feel we need a way out....any tips..?

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drmonica eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Great question! I have developed certain routines and rituals that are helpful for me in reducing everyday stress. I have a breakfast routine that includes making a small pot of hazelnut coffee, which feels like an indulgence. I make sure to sit down and enjoy my breakfast while I watch 30 minutes of the Today Show—no phone calls, no work, no checking emails. At lunch I stop working and spend at least 30 minutes enjoying my meal. I try to schedule lunch with a friend one day a week to give me something to look forward to and a break from my normal lunch routine. In the evenings, I take a bath and prepare for bed, and then when I go to bed, I read for fun and don’t yield to the temptation to jump back into work mode.

These are all routines and rituals that I can do whether I am at home, at an office, or on a business trip. I find it comforting and a great way to reduce stress.

archteacher eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I deal with everyday stressors by setting aside time to "be stressed" about them.  I teach Junior and Senior English, so there is always a mile-high pile of grading.  I allow myself to stress about it while I am correcting, entering grades, etc, but I refuse to work or think about work all night.  Once "work time" is over, it's really over.  I do not let work affect my daily workout, and I do not think about it while I do my recreational reading.  I also REFUSE to turn down social invitations in favor of work.  I'm sure this sounds very impractical.  I've found, however, that if I miss a workout to grade, I become more stressed and less effective.  If I miss social engagements, I resent my workload and become less motivated to grade, etc. outside of school.  I've actually become a much more efficient teacher/grader since I started compartmentalizing in this fashion.

ask996 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Life is about choices. We cannot always control what life throws at us, but we can control our response to what it throws at us. Stress is really no different. Can prevent those things that upset us and cause us stress? Not always. But do we have to get fat because we overeat for comfort? No. Do we have to get divorced because we can’t deal with the problems in our relationship? No. We choose the response. So when stress rears it’s ugly head find something positive to controvert it. Pray, read a book for escape, go to a funny movie or a movie where someone’s issues are worse than your own, watch a soap opera, go for a walk, go to a park, listen to the giggle of children as the feel cold river water washing over their feet, write out the problems and frustrations, call a friend or a family member, hug a loved one, and etc

kiwi eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I attended a really fantastic course on Choice Theory which helped me to gain an awareness of the things I chose to do in life which were actually damaging to me, which I 'thought' I had to do.

As a result of a re-evaluation I found that I have a need for power and success which I thought I was fufilling by an 11 hour working day and endless confrontation. I was simply making myself ill, however. I have realised that I can be equally powerful in managing my rose garden and being a good singer.

The key was doing things I actually like all the time. I found the confidence to say 'no' to projects at work which would make me popular, but drained. My need for freedom is greater than my need for love and belonging. Try the link below and read into Glasser's ideas. it is worth a try!

linda-allen eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I do different things to try to relieve stress. The best thing is a long, hot shower. I can just feel the tension lifting as the water hits my back and shoulders.

Sometimes I'll escape by watching a funny movie. Nothing is better than laughter to ease your mind, and one of the movies that makes me laugh out loud is "Happy Gilmore." You just can't help laughing when Bob Barker beats the stuffing out of Adam Sandler!

If a school day has been particularly bad, I'll stop and visit my nieces and nephew before going home. I don't have children of my own, and it is always a pleasure to see them.

When all else fails, I'll turn out the lights, close my eyes, and try to sleep.

readerofbooks eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Wow. What a great and practical question. Like you say, everyone is different. So, what can be done?

1. First, I think there needs to be a change in perspective that ultimately leads to a change in heart. If we remind ourselves of what is really important, then stress will diminish. So, if you are a student, then is it really the end of the world if you don't get into the college of your choice?

2. Second, I think we should try to spend time with people all over the world, if possible, or at least read broadly. So many people are in far worse situations.

3. Sleep and do something brainless, like most movies today.

4. Exercise regularly.

Ashley Kannan eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I think being able to release some of the stressful activities and experiences in one day through a productive dialogue is critical.  I think that being able to articulate such conditions helps one understand the causes of stress, develop action plans to address it, and help to minimize it.  If this takes the form of therapy, or speaking with a trusted confidant, or a loved one, I think being able to speak and articulate stress can help to reduce it and its destructive elements.

fernholz eNotes educator| Certified Educator

Stress Relievers

1. Exercise-releases endorphins (feel good hormones)

2. Eat right

3. Get enough sleep

4. Stay positive

5. Prioritize so you can manage your time more effectively.

6. Talk to someone you can trust


melissa1106 | Student

If i am stressed, I deal with it in several ways. I might exercise and work if off or do some yoga. I also might call up a friend and go hang for a while to get my mind off of what im currently stressing about. I also sometimes just listen to music and try to relax

kevin0001 | Student

Whenever I am stressed out, I would start to listen to K-Pop ( Korean Pop ) while running. While exercising and listening to music, my mind starts to wander off and not think about anything stressful. Another way I deal with stress is to either occupy myself with anything interesting, such as watching dramas, or go hang out with my friends. The final thing I do to deal with stress is to sleep it out and tell myself that everything will be alright the next day.

jess1999 | Student

For me when I'm stressed out I like to play the piano. I would pick a piece that would usually involve me pounding on the piano ( lol ) or I would pick a difficult but fun piece and after I finish playing I would feel better. 

If I don't have a piano with me I would usually listen to kpop, after listening for a few minutes my mood definitely would be lifted. 

I have struggeles with stress before and some of the things I do help me relax:


Immerse myself in kpop or kdrama or basically any shows I like

Usually the one above works but if not then I just talk to myself saying everything is going to be okay and try to have positive thoughts

Listen to music and brainstorm scenarios 

And finally  if nothing works: sleep like a koala.

Wiggin42 | Student

One of the best ways to deal with stress is to avoid stressful situations. For me, this means studying everyday so I'm not overwhelmed on test day. Of course some situations are just unavoidable and so when that happens there are several things I do to relax and calm myself down. This includes, reading books, blogging, singing, and baking. 

shannadowd | Student

Relieving stress has become a greater challenge these days. For me, it depends on the source of the stress.  For instance, if I'm stressed because of something on my job (I'm a teacher) I may speak with one of my close coworkers whom I trust and vent my frustrations or concerns.  If it is something personal (I'm a single mother of a 12-year-old daughter so I'm sure you can imagine my stress level at times) I may take a long walk or do some kick-boxing - exercise releases a chemical in the brain (endorfin I believe) which makes you feel happier and the physical activity can really help burn off the stress certain life situations can cause.  Stress will never go away entirely, but I think finding some outlet to cope, no matter what it is, is necessary.

krishna-agrawala | Student

Stress within limits is useful in lives of all people as it prepares body's natural instincts to deal with situation demanding alertness and action. It helps people to respond effectively to difficulties and challenges that faced by all people from time to time. It sort of makes extra energy available on demand instantly. However too much of stress releases energy that is wasted. It also harms the body by making it release more energies and for more extended periods than the body is capable of.

I two way of dealing with stress. First is to channelize my energy into something useful. The best thing to do is to do something about to eliminate the cause of worry. But many a times there may be nothing that I can do about it at a particular time, and I may need to pass some time time before any useful action can be taken. In such cases, engaging in some other work also helps.At times disturbing thoughts, which are more difficult to control than physical activities, are controlled by engaging in some useful and interesting physical activities.

When I am worried too much about something very important to me, and I am unable to do much about it, I try various relaxation techniques, ranging of just going to sleep to meditation. But as a rule I do not take sleeping pills or stress relieving drugs. I am not saying suggesting that people should never use these drugs. But I do prefer to undergo some minor inconveniences rather than use such medications.

cemiltarhan | Student

I don't and it does not help dealing with it. You just have to realize that stress is a temporary state of mind and it will go away. It is like a flu, with or without medication it will last for a limited period.

Just make sure that when you are under stress you do not do silly things because often stress will make people do crazy things that they normally would not do. This is very important.

If you can just assume that stress is temporary and that it does not affect your actions, believe me you will come out stronger in the end.

Don't let stress hold you hostage cause you are not. If you let stress take control of your life then know that it is you who do not want to control your life and turned it over to stress.

So don't even attempt coping with stress. You will do much better by neglecting it. Otherwise the more you think about it the more captive you will become.

One more, stress will do no harm to you but you will. In fact stress will only make you stronger if you remember that it is just a fake state of mind that you have created for fear of losing.

Don't fret losing cause losing is not the end of life, it is just another beginning, maybe for the better, though often an agonizing one. But you will overcome any hardship if you set your mind to it cause you are stronger than you think.

Trust your inner self and innate abilities.