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How do parents influence children in life?

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clairewait eNotes educator | Certified Educator

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This is such a broad question, there are many avenues from which to tackle it.

I'm going to propose looking at it through the lens of religion.  Most world religions support the traditional family structure as well as encourage large families because it is a quick and effective way to multiply numbers.  Consider the growth of Islam in Europe today.  It is quickly becoming one of the most highly represented religions (even in Western Europe) not due to evangelism and conversion, but due to the simple fact that Muslims are having more children.

And this isn't a trend that is isolated to one world religion.  Consider Catholics or Mormons.  Here are two religions that encourage large families and consider a man blessed by the number of children he has.

Based on this, it could be probably be argued that choice of faith or religion is most highly influenced by parents.  Consider how many people in the world who may not consider themselves "religious" would say, if asked what they believe and why, "Well, I guess I believe what my parents believed.  It's what I knew growing up..."  My guess would be a lot.

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Ashley Kannan eNotes educator | Certified Educator

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I would say that the exposure to values and beliefs would be one of the strongest influences that parents have over children in their lives.  The manner in which parents expose their children to values or ideas become extremely important for children over time.  For example, it is a challenge for some students to do well in school if they are in an environment where education is not valued nor is supported.  At the same time, if parents teach values that are antithetical to society, it increases the likelihood that they might embrace these values as absolutes.  Naturally, children do have freedom and autonomy.  They are not robots programmed by their parents.  Yet, the values and ideas imparted by parents to children and supported by the home setting helps to enhance potentially good and not so good habits being formed.

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There are many ways that parents can influence their children.  I would say that these tend to fall into two categories -- children can choose to pattern themselves after what they see their parents do or they can choose to avoid being like their parents.

In large part, we as children are shaped by what we see our parents do and how we see them act.  I know that I have tried to model myself after my parents in many ways because I think they have done many things right.

On the other hand, there are things that I think they have done wrong and I consciously try to avoid doing those things.  But either way, the way I live my life has been influenced by them.

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The list is endless.  As a teacher I see a student for five hours per week (assuming they are there each day), and for 18 or 36 weeks depending on the class.  90 to 180 hours per student.  It often makes me wonder why all the hubbub and fuss about what is being taught in the schools when parents spend exponentially greater time with their children then we do.  A parent tends to greatly influence a child's belief system, from religion to politics to personal values and habits.  They socialize them into the world and (hopefully) monitor their involvement with it.  Parents are the single largest factor, in my opinion, in determining a child's success or failure in life.

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Parents influence their children in countless ways. First of all, they create the life and mix the genes. Children do inherit some traits from their parents. Then, parents create the environment that the child is raised in, and heavily influence intelligence and personality by the ways they interact with the child. As the child grows, they prepare him or her for life as an adult either directly or indirectly. Even as adults they have a considerable ongoing influence, either in person or as memories.
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Parents can influence children in many ways throughout their lives.  One influence my parents had on me was to value education.  They taught me how to work for what i want and to never let anyone or anything stand in my way.  That taught me to look past fear and to explore new areas in life.

Parents can teach their children invaluable lessons just by the way they handle everyday situations and they respond to events. 

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kevin0001 | Student

Parents can influence children a lot because they have a very close relationship since the child's birth. A parent can influence their children in many ways. If a parent doesn't care about their children or set bad examples in front of their child, they will follow their parents and act just like them. This is because parents are their children's own role model. If a parent is very responsible and teaches their children, then the child will have a very good influence in their life. This can affect the result of the child's future.

crystaltu001 | Student

Parents influence their children in many many ways. If their kid is acting bad it means that their parents haven't taught them well or haven't taught them at all. If a kid is good it means parents have taught them well. Parents have to set expectations for their kids in order for them to be good in the future. 

zumba96 | Student

Parents can influence their kids in a lot of ways, if a kid is rowdy and rude and their parent never controlled them, not only will it create trouble in the future but if their parents never gave them a proper uprising, it could be the parents fault as well. When kids drink beer and liquor from their parents stash because their parents drink it, it is not a good idea nor good morals yet if a parent has a bad upbringing it ruins the child. 

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mchandrea | Student

To children, their parents would be the most influential people in their lives especially during childhood. The parents are naturally the first people a kid can trust. They are his or her role models. Mother's are our first teachers and father's are our own personal heroes. A child who grows up with parents has great and healthy social relationships. 

However, in an alternate context, if a child doesn't have good parents or have none at all, it still affects the child emotionally, mentally and psychologically. The child could carry emotional burden up until he gets old. He or she could build up walls and push people away.

Bottom line is, everything the parents do, and everything they don't do would still consequentially affect the child.

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Wiggin42 | Student

Children likes to imitate their parents. Actions speak louder than the words. Instead of giving empty advises,parents has a power to shape lives of the 

Giving opportunities

Trusting to take responsibility in day to day life.

Leading a life with values and passion 

Positive approach in life problems. 

Never giving up on any projects.

community involvement by volunteering. 

Parents  views ,success and failure  can influence the children so it is imperative that all the parents should lead a life that motivates the children to become better person.

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acompanioninthetardis | Student

Parents play a HUGE role in a child's life. From the moment they are born, kids in basically any species try to follow or imitate the adult. If kids at a young age are heavily impacted by a memory caused by a parent, they can be scarred and create distancing between whatever scared them. they also if raised under strict rules, can grow up to be very close minded and sometimes without reason...well their reasoning would be something along the lines of this is the right way or this is the way my papa/mama used to do things, etc.. Kids, since they're young blindly follow their parents, and imitate what their parents do because they realize subconsciously that their parents have more experience then them and that if they have survived this long in the real world, then so can they. Just my thoughts though.

zumba96 | Student

If children have bad parents they can influence them to have bad choices and if a parent smokes or drinks, when they are gone, they kid is bound to try them. Also, if the parents cuss a lot at home the kid is bound to have a bad mouth

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kc4u | Student

Indeed, children are most influenced by their parents because they are with the parents for the largest part of their daily lives. Parents are therefore the best teachers for the children.

Children learn to speak and move and respond to the world without under the loving care of their parents.

Parents are the people they see most, and imitate most. All the simple values of life, such as love, goodness, sympathy, respect for others are to be basically learned from the parents.

Children go to schools, but their basic education is very much under the guidance of their parents.

The entire grooming of children depends on the care and concern of their parents.

These are the reasons why proper growth of children may hamper in case of parental neglect, especially if parents are divided/separated. Parents are, truly, friends, philosophers and guides for the children.

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udonbutterfly | Student

Looking at it from a sociology perspective it is said that children go through two phases of socialization. There is primary socialization and then there is secondary socialization. Primary socialization is where the child learn all their morals and values inside the home from their parents. Secondary socialization is when the child goes out side of the home to institutions, such as school and the work place, where they demonstrate the values and morals they have picked up through primary socialization. Parents greatly effect their children's life and the decisions they begin to make in the outside world.

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