How can treating people with respect prevent fighting?
Treating people with respect can prevent fighting. When people are respectful towards others, there is a greater likelihood that a civil conversation can occur. People are more likely to be willing to sit down and listen to another person’s point of view, even if they disagree with it, if they are treated respectfully. It is very unusual for a person to want to fight unless there is a reason for doing so. When people believe their viewpoint or voice can’t or won’t be heard, they are more willing to resort to violence or fighting. Most of the time, all a person wants when there is a disagreement is to have his or her viewpoint heard in a respectful manner. If the final resolution isn’t what the person wants, if they feel they have been heard and dealt with fairly, they are more likely to accept whatever decision is made. They may not agree with the decision, but they will be more willing to accept it if there is respectful dialogue. Respect always trumps fighting.
People want to be validated and heard. People want to know that they matter and that they hold value. Treating someone with respect is showing that person that you acknowledge their value. This in turn gives them a sense of validation and purpose. You have acknowledged the importance and value of another in offering them the respect. When one feels validated, "respected", or valued then the sense to fight is not present. However the opposite of respect will cause one to want to fight in order to prove their value or worth.
A good example is with families. Family members can and do treat other members with disrespect. This in turn causes one to feel devalued, unappreciated and then can cause one to lash out in anger toward the other. The offense or disrespectful comments or actions can and often are perceived as hostile. This then caused one to feel they have been wounded and/or attacked, this wounding causes them to want to fight back in protection of themselves.
Respect for one another is easily given. It is honoring of another. This results in validation and feelings of acceptance. When we are accepting of one another there is no fighting.