Writing about a relationship can lead to exciting discoveries. Perhaps the particular relationship you choose to describe will lead you to discover something poignant about its nature or help you to explore subtle connections that were not obvious at first. You might even discover a relationship where, initially, you thought none existed.
Relationships are everywhere, but examining a specific relationship sometimes presents a tricky mine field to wander through. In your journey of discovery, develop questions that help you avoid the traps imposed by conventional thinking. What are some unusual features of the relationship? Where is the relationship going? Why does he/she/it behave so strangely? Why can’t the two entities understand each other?
When you write about a relationship, think about the significance of a particular kind of relationship, or explain how a particular relationship is similar to something else, or how a relationship reveals something important about a subject. Pursue the discovery of the relationship you plan to write about as an adventure and a journey into the unknown dimensions. Doing so will make it possible for you to “see the other whole against the sky.”
There are a number of ways you could start the essay. The question is which method will hook, or interest, your reader the most. Here are several ideas which may help:
1. Name the realizations or discoveries you made about yourself as a result of the relationship. Sometimes, difficult relationships I have had with others has made me learn about my own faults, and as a result, I have changed for the better. Also, some relationships have provided me opportunities to practice patience, perseverance, and compassion.
2. Describe the opposite qualities you and the other person had. Later you can show how these qualities made you closer or how they made you drift apart.
3. Compare the relationship to something else. Here is an example: My relationship with my ex-boyfriend was like a tire with a slow leak in it. It started out perfectly, but when we encountered bumps in the road, we lost the ability to bounce back. Ultimately, our relationship went flat. (You can continue to refer to this metaphor throughout the piece. Extended metaphors are delightful to read if they are done with great care.)
4. There is always the age old standby of a definition; You might even want to somehow poke humor at the definition -- such as "While real love is supposed to be patient, that was never the case with my dad when I was a kid." Then you could talk about that particular aspect of the relationship and how it influenced you.
I hope these ideas are helpful. Best of luck on your essay!