How can I build a stronger relationship with my mum?

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First, it is so admirable that you want to improve your relationship with your mother. Second, it may be a long road. My experience is more with my father, but here is what has worked for me: you have to learn to really listen, see things from the other person's perspective, and try to see the intentions behind the words. You also have to be patient with your differences and not try to make her what you want her to be rather than what she is. Keep your temper at all costs. Be the one who makes the effort and she will respond. You have to try to communicate with her in a way that makes sense to her and always try to see from her point of view. You may not always agree with her, but being able to see her point of view will often allow you to overlook things that may have otherwise made you angry and unable to communicate. You have to work to have a relationship with the person she is, not the person you would like her to be. I'm sure it will be worth it. Best of luck!

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I would say the best way to build any relationship is through communication. Spend time with her and talk to her. Try to find things the two if you have in common. Find things you can share. Once you start really communicating, you will start to know what things she needs from the relationship and she will know what you need. Communication is the first step and the key to a healthy relationship. 

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The best way to build a relationship with someone is to give them part of your life and take interest in theirs.  If you truly care about someone and take the time to work on the relationship with them, it will grow.  Look for some common interest you can share, but simply eating meals together and talking will help.  Time together will make any relationship blossom if your heart is in the right place.

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Honesty, communication, and finding shared interests are key. As a parent, nothing gratifies me more than knowing that my kids want to spend time with me, and I want nothing more than for them to feel that they can be honest with me whatever the subject.

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I would suggest spending time with her. A person cannot know who another person is unless they spend time with them. I would also suggest complete honesty. Great relationships are based upon honesty.

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The best way to make the relationship with your mother better is to spend time together alone.  If you spend a great deal of time out doing something, such as on a trip or even a day trip, you will see each other in different circumstances.  Then you can get to see each other as real people.  Also, the more time you spend together the more time you’ll talk, and talking builds relationships.  You will learn more about each other and get to appreciate one another.

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