Should I get married if I am not sure the person makes me happy? My friend asked me to marry, Do I accept the marriage of my friend or what?  But I do not feel happy. Is this feeling normal? Do I have to be happy? I do not know ... I love him or not, but I know he loves me.  I loved a boy in the past, but I do not know where he is today? What do I do?? Please help me. I can not think of anything, just "this boy."  I did not think of "This Boy" before today, but I do not know what is happend to me?

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I can't see marrying someone that I don't really love.  But I don't know what your cultural background is.  If that is normal for your culture, then maybe.  But I could not imagine accepting a marriage proposal (or making one, as a man) if the thought of marrying the person did not make me happy.

I am like you...!!!

but,,, What is the relationship between cultural background and my problem?!!!

and thank you 2#

 

Sometimes in certain cultures arranged marriages are more common.  The poster was trying to be sensitive to the fact that you may not actually have a choice. I hope you do!

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#8 says it very well. Relationships are generally much more fun at the very beginning. If the relationship does not make you happy now, then chances are it never will.

You have a lifetime ahead of you; this is probably not a decision you need to make right now. You should tell the boy that you are not feeling ready to make this decision yet.  If he loves you he will wait for you to figure things out.

You should be living in the present, concentrating on finishing high school, and enjoying being there. Tomorrow will come, whether you worry about it or not. Enjoy today and take things slowly.

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It sounds to me as if you are not in love. For this reason, I could not accept a marriage proposal. Marriage is difficult even when you are in love. It takes a lot of give and take. Making a marriage last requires hard work and major effort. If you do not love someone, it will be difficult to make a marriage work. 

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The first comment of your post speaks volumes! You are not happy!! If the prospect of marrying this man doesn't make you happy in some way, then that is your heart or your gut telling you this isn't the right thing to do. The other boy you loved in the past is in your thoughts now, because you say you "loved" him, which you cannot say (or did not say) about the man who proposed. You need to think long and hard about such a life-changing decision, especially if you already feel this conflicted.

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It is normal to feel this way. I know you have spoken in the past about a boy you used to love. Just because someone loves you does not mean that you should love him back. You do not need to marry him. Explain to him that you need some time to think about it. You do not have to tell him you don't love him. You should take some time to figure it out. You do not need to feel pressure to make a decision now. If he really does love you, he will give you space to figure things out.
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I can't see marrying someone that I don't really love.  But I don't know what your cultural background is.  If that is normal for your culture, then maybe.  But I could not imagine accepting a marriage proposal (or making one, as a man) if the thought of marrying the person did not make me happy.

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