GIRLSWhy do Girls  like attractive guys ? I am a very ugly guy no girl ever like me .. i like some really pretty girl but im to ugly for her :(.... How can i get her attention?

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stolperia | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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Lots of good advice in the above posts. The main thing I can add to to reinforce - if you judge girls based on their appearance only, you can't fault them for doing the same.

If you can find ways to involve yourself in different groups, take part in activities that will allow you to meet and work with girls and guys who share your interests, and give genuine respect and attention to the people around you, they will come to value your friendship in return. Don't push it to happen too soon - it's hard to hear, but you have your whole life ahead of you!

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readerofbooks | College Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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Beauty is also in the eye of the beholder. In other words, all people are different. Hopefully you will meet someone who will see beyond externals and see your character. This assumes that your character is one that is filled with good qualities, like honesty, integrity, and the like. I would say that best way to prepare for a future mate is to prepare yourself for one.

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wannam | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Educator

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The best advice I can give is to hang in there.  Once you get out of high school and everyone starts to mature a bit, appearance won't matter as much.  I find that very attractive teenage girls are often prone to thinking they're too good for others.  Not all girls are like this, but many are (especially at that age).  One day they will realize that just because someone is good looking doesn't mean they're a good person and just because someone is less attractive doesn't mean they're not worth dating.

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bullgatortail | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Distinguished Educator

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I guess things really haven't change much since I was in high school during the early 1970s. The best-looking girls were usually chased by many different guys, but only the older, handsomer guys seemed to catch them. Like most guys, I was initially attracted to the pretty, popular girls, but I eventually discovered that outer beauty is far less important than what's inside a person. As far as you thinking you're ugly, many guys (and girls) feel this way at your age, but you'd be surprised how different you'll look and feel in a few years. By that time, what you see and how you see it will have changed a bit, too.

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justaguide | College Teacher | (Level 2) Distinguished Educator

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Now let's look at your question again, you say that ".. i like some really pretty girl," in what way is she pretty, looks great? If that is the reason, you basically have your answer. If you yourself have rejected all the uglier ones for this pretty girl, can you expect her to reject all the prettier boys for you. Seems like simple logic to me.

But as they say, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. As all the previous posts have put it, try to be a nice person, someone that people would be attracted to for his inherent qualities.

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lmetcalf | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Senior Educator

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Ask yourself if you really want to be with a girl who doesn't appreciate you for you and then pay more attention to the girls who share your interests, laugh at your jokes, and think you are great. Those are the girls you will have a great time with because you can be your best, true self and not have superficial things get in the way.

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belarafon | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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The younger the girl, the more shallow her perceptions and preferences will be. The ugly guys who think their physical attractiveness is the only standard for being "liked" are only correct when dealing with immaturity. As the age of your peer group increases, and as the age of the girls you meet increases, their preferences will change based on their own experiences and rational self-interest. Unfortunately, this may take a while depending on how old you are. The best course of action, as #3 says, is to simply be the nice guy; contrary to popular belief, you do not need to be a "bad boy" to be attractive. Nice guys finish slowly, but they do finish, and usually in a better lifestyle than destructive, "jerk" type guys.

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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The only way to get the girl's attention is to act like someone who would be good to be with and to know.  In other words, be pleasant, be nice.  It may not work, of course.  No one gets everyone they want.  So you can't think about it as if this is your only chance to be happy.  So all you can do is be who you are...  Not such great and fun-sounding advice, I know, but I'm pretty sure it's true.

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vangoghfan | College Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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Eventually smart girls will appreciate your qualities of character, so try to develop those as much as possible. They will also eventually appreciate someone who will make a good, dependable, reliable mate, so try to cultivate the kinds of qualities that really matter, hang in there, and wait for the right person to come along.

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nhl123 | Student, Grade 11 | (Level 1) Valedictorian

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Now let's look at your question again, you say that ".. i like some really pretty girl," in what way is she pretty, looks great? If that is the reason, you basically have your answer. If you yourself have rejected all the uglier ones for this pretty girl, can you expect her to reject all the prettier boys for you. Seems like simple logic to me.

But as they say, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. As all the previous posts have put it, try to be a nice person, someone that people would be attracted to for his inherent qualities.

Her body her face ??

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