You are going to need to make some decisions about the perspective you want to bring to answering your points. The answers to your questions would be very different if you asked a colonist who wanted to separate from England than if you asked a Loyalist.
If you adopted the perspective of John Adams, for example, he felt strongly that the English colonial government was incapable of giving colonial residents their rights as English citizens and that, therefore, the colonies needed to become independent of England. As a lawyer, Adams successfully defended a colonist who killed a British naval lieutenant during an attempted impressment of the colonist into the British navy. Adams supported demonstrations such as the Boston Tea Party and its objections to unrepresented taxes imposed by the British government.
Your perspective would be completely different if you adopted the stance of John Murray, 4th Earl of Dunmore, who served as the colony of Virginia's last royal governor. Dunmore did his best to attempt to control the colonists and their threats of rebellion through actions such as dissolving the House of Burgesses that was the elected governmental representation of the colonists repeatedly and moving gunpowder from a public building to a British navy ship to prevent colonists from gaining access (the Gunpowder Incident of April, 1775).