There are two primary lessons that are revealed through Fulgham's spider anecdote. The first is that different points of view help us to understand consciousness better. The fact that Fulgham enables the reader to see how the spider perceived the woman walking into her web as well as how the woman perceived the spider's web in the morning helps to reveal how reality looks fundamentally different from different points of view. Depending on how one views it, the same event can look quite different. This is a life lesson that teaches empathy and understanding.
Fulgham uses the "Itsy Bitsy Spider" Song from Kindergarten in the wake of the women's blood curdling cries and the spider's earthquake of a moment. For Fulgham, a life lesson can be understood through the song:
The Itsy Bitsy Spider crawled up the water spout./Down came the rain, and washed the spider out./Out came the sun, and dried up all the rain,/And the Itsy Bitsy Spider went up the spout again.
For Fulgham, the idea of the spider story is to show that there is much to be learned from spiders. They have existed for millions of years, far longer than human beings. Creatures, as old as the dinosaurs and as bizarre as the business woman, have entered into and destroyed the spiders' webs. Yet, they have persevered. They have not died out. The life lesson here is resilience. There will be times when our webs will be broken, and when we will be "washed out" of our own spouts. Like the spider, we learn to rebuild our webs and we learn to go up the spout again. There is much to be learned in how the spider survives and continues even in the face of massive disappoint and loud business personnel.