finished at 30.Does  anyone feel that they are finished with certain aspects of there life. I am starting a more spiritual ques now.

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jmj616 | Middle School Teacher | (Level 3) Associate Educator

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I'm 48 years old and I feel that I'm finally finished with being stupid. The problem is that I felt this way at 40, at 35, at 30, and so on. 

Seriously, though, age does bring a certain sort of wisdom.  I am at ease with myself and my limitations (which I have discovered are limited to certain limited areas).  More importantly, I am at ease with other peoples' limitations, which allows me to accept them for what they are--which is, usually, something wonderful.  And for those millions of S.O.B.'s out there, I have the wisdom of the ancient Latin proverbist who said, "non illigitemi carborundum"--don't let the bastards get you down. 

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lrwilliams | College Teacher | (Level 1) Educator

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As a person in his mid 40's I really have never thought of my life in stages according to my age. I kind of look at it as an evolving process, I still have the same interests and desires as always, maybe just more refined now.

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Everyone is different. At 53, I am probably the happiest I have ever been. I am in a relatively new marriage that is working out really well, my kids are turning out to be lovely humans. I changed careers to education in my 40s--another good move. And if you take care of your body, there is no reason you can't keep up with your sports. I am lucky, certainly, to be able to still play ultimate and run, but I also work hard at making sure I take care of myself.  I guess this is all a roundabout way of saying NO, I do not think I have to leave behind parts of my life!

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ask996 | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Senior Educator

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Age has never been an issue that has concerned me, so I don’t really feel as if a part of my life is over. We lost everything we owned in a housefire several years ago, and someone told me that I would remember my life in two stages--before the fire and after the fire. That never happened. It was simply one life with different elements and experiences constantly happening. How sad it would seem to me, if I felt as if part of my life was over. Case closed--the end, as if that part of my life held no more relevance for me today.
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booksnmore | College Teacher | (Level 3) Adjunct Educator

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At 30, no, I couldn't say I was finished with any aspects of my life. But I could say that I was embarking on new aspects of life. My life with children grew richer in my 30s. Although my spirituality didn't start then, it certainly evolved. Certain relationships became infinitely stronger. Others seemed much less important than they did in younger years. But I agree with #2...I, too, hope to keep growing, changing, and LEARNING :) as long as I live. For me, that's what makes life interesting!

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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In terms of the life inside my head, no.  I can not imagine being done with any aspect of my mental/emotional life while I am still alive.

Now, physically it's a different story.  I've been told by doctors that I may no longer play sports.  This is a big change for me.  I guess that changes my mental image of myself because sports were always a big part of my life.

But in terms of my mental life, I hope to keep growing and changing as long as I live.

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mkcapen1 | Middle School Teacher | (Level 3) Valedictorian

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In reply to #11: I hear what you are saying for me change is very hard and I seldom like it even if it is going to bring in good things. I always think change is bad and I just have always been uncomfortable with change and adjusting .

  My husband is more like you.  We are each others Ying and Yang.  We balance each other.  It takes baby steps to change. Society changes all the time so one has to learn to roll with it.  However, there is much positive in the comfort of stability.  There is no right or wrong for people.  Each person must do what works best for him to maintain good mental and physical health.  As a child I grew up in situations where I was constantly moved from home to home.  For me having a stable home is very important.  It is the one stability that I award myself.

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magicworld | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 1) eNoter

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When I was 30 I was on top of the world.  I had just had my 4th child, was raising several others and had returned to school.  I am an avid learner and that has always helped to guide me into new directions.  When I turned 50 I cried for 24 hours and then decided to do something different.  I went from being a social worker to teaching.  I went back to college.  In the past five years I became a teacher, completed my Masters Degree and passed my National Teaching Boards. 

The most wonderful thing about this day and age and living in America is that no one has to burn out or stop.  On can always find a new direction in which to go, a new class to take, a new book to read, a new friend to make, a new person to help, and new hobby to undertake.    Embrace each new day because you have a day and it is yours.

We all finish things and start new things but nthing we have done in life bad or good is wasted.  Each experiecne will help us in the next, and like the person stated earlier each age makes us smarter.  I am 55 now.

I hear what you are saying for me change is very hard and I seldom like it even if it is going to bring in good things. I always think change is bad and I just have always been uncomfortable with change and adjusting .

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mkcapen1 | Middle School Teacher | (Level 3) Valedictorian

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When I was 30 I was on top of the world.  I had just had my 4th child, was raising several others and had returned to school.  I am an avid learner and that has always helped to guide me into new directions.  When I turned 50 I cried for 24 hours and then decided to do something different.  I went from being a social worker to teaching.  I went back to college.  In the past five years I became a teacher, completed my Masters Degree and passed my National Teaching Boards. 

The most wonderful thing about this day and age and living in America is that no one has to burn out or stop.  On can always find a new direction in which to go, a new class to take, a new book to read, a new friend to make, a new person to help, and new hobby to undertake.    Embrace each new day because you have a day and it is yours.

We all finish things and start new things but nthing we have done in life bad or good is wasted.  Each experiecne will help us in the next, and like the person stated earlier each age makes us smarter.  I am 55 now.

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magicworld | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 1) eNoter

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I think after doing certain jobs or dates or friends you are ready for changes. Thanks to all who have inputted..

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magicworld | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 1) eNoter

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I am no starting to take care of myself , I have been to busy taking care of my material needs and have neglected my spirit and mind which if that goes forget it.

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