Why does living with family have to be so hard to live with when you try your best at everything you do? Why does living with family have to be so hard to live with when you try your best...

Why does living with family have to be so hard to live with when you try your best at everything you do?
  • Why does living with family have to be so hard to live with when you try your best at everything you do?

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bullgatortail | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Distinguished Educator

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You may want to consider the alternative: Living without the benefit of a mother, father and siblings. My mother died when I was 14, and my father and I often butted heads, but my life would certainly have been worse living without parents in a foster home or orpanage. You will grow into legal adulthood soon enough, and it will be your option to disconnect with your parents if you so choose. But their is nothing better than a close family, and I miss my grandparents, parents and brother, who have long since passed away. You may not realize it now, but you'll probably understand the importance of your family as you grow older and wiser.

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literaturenerd | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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I have to say that both answers provided above are wonderful. To understand how relationships really work, it is very important to examine things from the other person's perspective. That said, truly understanding another is close to impossible, especially family. Essentially, when one looks at it, it is hard to live with anyone other than one's self. People must learn to make compromises and successions. As a parent though, it is my job to make sure that my children are raised with morals and knowing how to make the best decisions. Sometimes children and young adults do not agree with a parent's decisions. This difference of opinion can cause problems within a family.

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litteacher8 | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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I don't think anyone ever understands family.  It will be difficult sometimes, at any age.  Your family is your family for your whole life.  Remember that.  Try to look at things from your family member's perspective if you are having trouble getting along with someone.

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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Two comments:

First, turn it around and ask that question from the point of view of the rest of your family.  Presumably, they are trying their best and yet you find it hard to live with them.  It works both ways.

Second, parents tend to want the best for their kids.  We worry that you will not take things seriously enough in the short term and that will sabotage your long-term opportunities.  I think this is why we tend to push our kids even when they think they are doing all that could/should be expected of them.

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isabelladawn | Student, Grade 10 | eNotes Newbie

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  • All of this is true and its more understanding now! Thank you...! I have asked from there point of view and they say the same thing that they try there best. Its hard but in the end i really do love them although they make it hard sometimes

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