Explain how when we judge people we will not have the time to love them.Explain how when we judge people we will not have the time to love them.

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litteacher8 | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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I think the idea behind your question is that if we are too judgmental we might miss relationships that we could have gotten a lot out of. Sometimes stereotypes, rumor, or negative first impressions prevent us from getting to know people. We should wait for more information before deciding, and give a person the benefit of the doubt.
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ask996 | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Senior Educator

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We judge people all the time. We make determinations about their thoughts, their feelings, their actions and etc. That's how relationships function. Perhaps a better, more precise word would be judgmental. If we are judgmental about people, we are looking at their "flaws" and if we cannot accept people for who and what they are, then we do not have time to love them.

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megan-bright | (Level 1) Associate Educator

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When we judge people we strip away their unique characteristics and view them based on what we are judging them on. For example, if someone is on public assistance people may judge them by saying the person is lazy. However, in reality the person may be ill or injured. When people judge, they only look at negative aspects without considering other possibilities.

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mwestwood | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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As post #2 notes, literature is replete with examples of this foible in human nature.  With Wuthering Heights as yet another example, no one in the novel seems to understand why Catherine loves Heathcliff because they cannot reach beyond his wildness of appearance and demeanor.

Studies have shown that people make judgments about others within the first 15 minutes of meeting them, and 75% of a job interview is determined by the impression that the person makes upon the interviewer.  People may not be able to judge a person by the proverbial cover, but they certainly try.  And, then, they often dismiss them for some flaw in their apparent personality, etc.

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pohnpei397 | College Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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I think that what this means is that all we do when we judge people is to look for their faults.  We spend all our time looking at them and trying to think about what is wrong with them.  If we would stop doing that, we would be able to have the time to look at them with more compassion and understanding.  We would be able to look for their good traits rather than their bad traits.  Then we would have time to love them.

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