drama (rumors,gossip,friends)how do you stop these "rumors"?

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litteacher8 | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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One way to stop a rumor is by responding to it.  You can deny it, and explain that the person is being frivilous and small.  I know this goes against some conventional wisdom, but ignoring things doesn't always work.  Directly address the person, so he or she can't hide behind friends.

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afi80fl | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Assistant Educator

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Rumors are a really bad part of growing up, especially when you get into a social setting like school or work.  They can be innocent enough, such as suspecting that you got a new job, or that you might be moving across town, or they can be mean and hurtful, examples of which need not be spelled out. 

However, The best thing you can do is just stick to your story.  Others who care about you and are truly your friends will know that they are just rumors, with little or no truth to them.  Those who believe them aren't your friends, and you should try your absolute best to care less about what they think. 

Now, granted, this is extremely hard to do.  It's tough to stop caring or pretend not to notice when people are talking about you. Then again, this is always going to be a part of life, so why not learn how to work it out now.  Perhaps you can confront the source of the fabrication; go up to the person and, without being confrontational or overly mean, and keeping a cool head about yourself, ask them to please stop spreading the lies as they are not true and they are hurtful. A lot of times this works, surprisingly.  If not, then you know they're a dispicable, horrible person and hopefully the rumor, like all the rest, will eventually become old news and people will stop believing or caring.

Best of luck with the situation.

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charcunning | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Assistant Educator

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Just remember that people gossip and spread rumors in an attempt to bring you down--it's up to you if you let that happen or not.

There is a quote that says, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent", which basically means you have to agree to letting someome make you feel bad. If you don't agree, then you don't feel bad and they lose!

Keep your head up, and most importantly, be the better person--do not retaliate--do not seek revenge--don't start gossip or rumors about them!

Just go about your business and if you don't make a big deal about it, it will all fade away quickly! What seems horrible today will be nothing but a memory in about a week--even though it may not seem like it! :)

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amy-lepore | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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The best way to stop rumors is to live in such a way that other KNOW the rumors are not true.  Don't give the rumor spreaders the satisfaction of breaking down and losing your cool.  Simply ignore them and they will become tired of talking about you since they're not getting a rise out of you.  Be strong, and know that your true friends know the truth.

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epollock | (Level 3) Valedictorian

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You can't stop them unless you confront the people involved.  Or get someone in authority to stop them from spreading. You just have to ignore them as best as possible ans confront them with honesty and truthfulness.

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krishna-agrawala | College Teacher | (Level 3) Valedictorian

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You need to handle differently the rumors in general and rumors that affect personally.

If you want to avoid spread of rumors in general the best approach is to not to pass on a rumor that comes your way. Also when some one tells you about it do not discuss is at length. Any discussion about the rumor - supporting or opposing its truth - encourages the rumor monger. So the best approach is to indicate that you do not attach any importance to rumors.

When the rumors affect you personally, especially in a negative way, things need to be handled differently. The best way to avoid a rumor is to provide the correct information in the first place. Rumors thrive in an atmosphere of secrecy. However this may not aways be possible or advisable.

When you are faced with an unsavoury rumor, the best thing is to give out your version when opportunity arises. When for some reasons the truth cannot be told, say that you do not wish to, or are not free to discuss the issue in detail, but the rumor is not correct. This must be done in a cool and composed way, and must not be repeated too often.

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lovemyboo | Student, Grade 9 | (Level 1) eNoter

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The best way to stop rumors is to live in such a way that other KNOW the rumors are not true.  Don't give the rumor spreaders the satisfaction of breaking down and losing your cool.  Simply ignore them and they will become tired of talking about you since they're not getting a rise out of you.  Be strong, and know that your true friends know the truth.

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