Does the poem "Remember" suggest anything about the passive role of women in Victorian society?

The poem "Remember" by Christina Rossetti suggests that women in Victorian society were expected to be passive in their relationships with men, especially their husbands.

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In this poem the speaker addresses her partner, who is possibly her husband, and she asks him to remember her after she has died. In the third line of the poem, the speaker asks her partner to remember, after she has died, that he "can no more hold [her] by the hand." Ordinarily this image would have positive, romantic connotations. However, the next line of the poem, in which the speaker describes herself trying to "turn to go" from her partner, suggests that he is not holding her hand in a romantic sense, but rather in a possessive sense. He is holding her hand to keep her from leaving. The wife is here physically passive, unable to escape the grip of her husband's hand, and it is almost as if she is revelling in the idea that in death she will finally be free of this passivity. The physical passivity here also represents the way in which women in Victorian society were meant to be passive in a broader sense. Women were expected to do as they were told by their husbands.

A little later in the poem, the speaker, directly addressing her partner, asks him to

Remember me when no more day by day

You tell me of our future that you planned.

The phrase "you tell me" is significant here. Despite the future being a future for both of them ("ours"), it is very much the man telling the woman what that their future will be. The woman seems to have no say in that future but is expected to passively accept the future that her partner chooses for her. This point is emphasized at the end of the quote with the phrase "that you planned." The emphasis here is very much on the word "you."

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