Do you think people skills can be learned? If people skills can be learned, how would you go about it?

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I think to a large degree they can be learned, absent any pathological condition that interferes with this sort of learning, for example, autism, which often creates a deficiency of empathy, thus making people skills difficult or impossible to acquire. 

In my opinion, people skills are best taught with modeling,...

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I think to a large degree they can be learned, absent any pathological condition that interferes with this sort of learning, for example, autism, which often creates a deficiency of empathy, thus making people skills difficult or impossible to acquire. 

In my opinion, people skills are best taught with modeling, practice, and critique.  These are largely communication skills, and if those cannot be taught, we have all wasted a great deal of time, money, and energy offering communications courses and degrees.  They are also a form of emotional intelligence, something that therapists help people with every day. 

People are capable of observing successful transactions among others, and they can be taught to analyze what makes those transactions successful.  They can then practice those behaviors and with repetition and constructive criticism, internalize them.  Sometimes there is a behavioral aspect to this, too, with negative and positive reinforcement helping us to make corrections. 

Think about this for a moment. How do any of us learn any people skills otherwise?  We learn by observing our parents and siblings, interacting with them, practicing what we see, getting some criticism and then making corrections.  There are behavioral aspects here, too, with the consequences of behaving appropriately or inappropriately. 

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