Do you support a woman to be "a worker or a housewifeDo you support a woman to be "a worker or a housewife?" Why??And what man chooses......... ^_^

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rrteacher eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I agree that it basically depends on individual circumstances and needs. Post 5 raises a valid point in that we almost never ask the question the other way around, and this reflects a very deep-seated set of cultural expectations in our society. While I work and attend graduate school full time, my schedule allows me to pick kids up from preschool, and I am usually the only male there, everyone else is a stay-at-home mother. What is really strange, however, is that even in a society where most mothers do work, the gendered division of labor within many households is such that women wind up working AND doing jobs that we traditionally associate with housewives.

Lorraine Caplan eNotes educator| Certified Educator

If a man and woman comprise a household, how the generation of income and the distribution of household labor should be allocated between them should be a matter of their skills, education, experience, and preferences.  Why should gender ever be a factor in making these decisions?  The only concession that must be made on this basis is that women who want to have children must be afforded the time to deliver and recover from delivery.  If gender is otherwise a factor, people often prevent themselves from realizing their full economic potential and becoming self-actualized individuals.  Why would anyone want to do that?

lsumner eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I was a stay at home mom, and I don't regret it. I enjoyed being with my children, and as time would have it, they are long gone and grown. I rarely see my son. My husband could make more money working so it made sense for me to stay home and for him to work. I believe that a family should decide who stays home with the children based on who can make a financial living. Money answers all things and it just so happens that my husband had a job in which he could make more money than I could so I stayed home with the children. We were fortunate in my being able to stay at home.

pohnpei397 eNotes educator| Certified Educator

There should be no blanket statements that all women should do X or Y.  Instead, what should happen is whatever is best for the family.  I have no issue with women who want to stay home.  However, in my family, it was best for my wife to work full-time and for me to drop to very part-time work after our kids were born.  I could make money part-time, she couldn't.  I already did all the cooking even before kids so that made sense.  It shouldn't be based on sex like the previous post says.  It should be based on the particular circumstances of the family.

e-martin eNotes educator| Certified Educator

People should be what they want to be, do what they want most to do, regardless of gender.

I feel personally that it is totally acceptable for a woman to choose to be a "house-wife" and it is totally acceptable for a man to choose to be a "house-husband".

The world we live in, in the West anyway, offers categorical respect to both genders in regards to the right to work and the right to be a full-time parent. At least, that's how I think of Western values in this situation.

mlsiasebs eNotes educator| Certified Educator

As the previous posters have stated, each family needs to make decisions based on what is best for them and for their family.  Women should not be the only one for whom work vs. stay home is a question.  For some families, that means one spouse works and the other stays home.  For other families, both spouses work full time or both spouses work part time.  It all depends on the abilities of each spouse as well as the individual financial and emotional needs of their family.

pacorz eNotes educator| Certified Educator

I wonder if you would ever ask this: "Should a man be a worker or a stay-at-home father?"  Gender has very little to do with either the ability or the necessity to support one's family. Aside from pregnancy itself, there is nothing that makes one gender inherently more capable of taking care of children and a household than the other. Every couple needs to make this decision together in the way that best suits their family's needs.

litteacher8 eNotes educator| Certified Educator
I think that both the man and the woman in a household should split the responsibilities. If that involves child-rearing, then they each should take part. Each should also take part in cooking, cleaning, errands and other household chores, depending on how much time they have.
drahmad1989 | Student

women means the wall or inide th wall so its better to be a housewife for women, and outer responsibilties lies on man . as husband have to earn and nurish his child and take care of her wife as well.hope u like this idea

loraaa | Student

thanksss to all... ^_^

wanderista | Student

I definitely do not think women should be obliged to work in the house, should receive lower pay than men or be forced to give up their jobs in order to raise their children. In my opinion, men and women are equal. Pay rates should be the same and so on.

alilion | Student

a house wife..but if she wants to work she can..but a small.. obviously she has the responsiblity to look after the family as well as the man..but she must be able to cook for her family, look after her family make sure they are all well,cleaning, all a womens job but a should assist the wife in the daily jobs at hom etc.. but its best for the woman to be a house wife so she something nice prepared for the husband when he comes home :D