Describe the symbolism used by Chinua Achebe in Marriage is a Private Affair  

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Nnaemeka's marriage to Nene symbolizes a rejection of Christianity and a deviation or challenge to his heritage as Ibo. Nnaemeka has chosen his soon to be wife rather than follow the strict marital arrangements that are set by his father. Nene and Nnaemeka instead choose to follow love. Nene's role as a teacher and Christian is counter to Nnaemeka's Christian upbringing. This is exemplified when Nnaemeka's father says,

no Christian woman should teach. St. Paul in his letter to the Corinthians says that women should keep silence.

The marriage is a sign of deviation and is further explained when an elderly man in the village notes that a marriage between a native Ibo and someone who speaks a different tongue was 'never heard of'. The ending scene is of an overcast and stormy night. This symbolizes that

nature had a hand in a human fight . . .

This sensory image is reflective of the turmoil between father and son.

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In this short story by Achebe, the author explores the stubbornness of the older generation, specifically, Okeke, the father, in accepting the right of his son to choose his own wife. Ironically, marriage becomes a symbol of division rather than unity. Generally, marriage is thought to unite families, but in this case, marriage destroys the relationship of the father and son until the end of the story when Okeke finds out he has grandchildren.

When Nnaemeka decides to marry a woman from Lagos, Nene, Okeke is in disbelief. This disbelief turns to anger and resentment: In fact, "for eight years, Okeke would have nothing to do with his son, Nnaemeka." The marriage symbolizes the breach in the relationship between father and son.

However, at the end of the story, there appears hope the relationship can be saved when Okeke finally feels remorse for his actions and hopes he can make it up to his son and his son's family.

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I think that symbolism is evident in a couple of points in the story.  The strongest example of this would be at the end of the story, when Okeke receives the letter from Nene requesting her husband and children, his son and grandchildren, to visit.  The moment he concludes the letter, Achebe uses the theory of correspondence between nature and emotions to bring out a symbolism that represents internal transition:

Very soon it began to rain, the first rain in the year. It came down in large sharp drops and was accompanied by the lightning and thunder which mark a change of season. Okeke was trying hard not to think of his two grandsons. But he knew he was now fighting a losing battle... His mind immediately returned to the children. How could he shut his door against them? By a curious mental process he imagined them standing, sad and forsaken, under the harsh angry weather—shut out from his house.

The symbolic connection between rain, its force, as well as the feelings of resentment and anger giving way to missed opportunity and sadness is powerful in bringing out Okeke's emotional state of being.  In the ending, Achebe's use of symbolism helps to illuminate the desperation that exists in Okeke, a stark contrast to what he had been experiencing prior to it.

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