In Pride and Prejudice, why does Elizabeth's accusation that Darcy has not behaved "in a gentleman-like manner" help Darcy overcome his arrogance?
Darcy states that Elizabeth’s accusations at the time of his first proposal have been “ill-founded” and “formed on mistaken premises” but that he nonetheless has been properly humbled by her claim that he has not behaved “in a gentleman-like manner.
Elizabeth rejects Darcy because he presents his proposal in an odd form. He says that he has tried to get over her, he knows that he should not love her, but he is afflicted, he cannot get her out of his mind, so therefore, he needs to marry her.
Darcy equates Elizabeth with an illness or an addiction that someone is too weak to resist. His love is like a fever that he wishes he could get rid of, but is helpless to do so. She is so insulted with the way that he arrogantly phrases his need for her like a prize horse that he fell in love with at an auction, that she rises to the occasion, insulting him in grand form.
He is rejected, air slapped by her words. A proud man, he leaves the Collins home stricken, and convinced that he will die from his unrequited love for Elizabeth.
Elizabeth has now made herself even more attractive to the man who does not expect to be rejected. Darcy now admires Elizabeth even more because of her principled stance against him.
He feels that he did not express his love for her in an appropriate manner, but that he really does love her. So he believes that she has judged him too harshly. He, being polite and gentlemanly vows not to approach her again.
Darcy really is a good guy in spite of acting like an idiot in the beginning of our story.
Ms Bennett really knows how to get to him. she doesn't simply say no I don't want to marry you, or I don't love you, or I love someone else.
She tells Darcy exactly why she would never entertain a proposal from him.
It is simple really. He did not realize how Eliza felt and expected a different response. Being that he really is deep down a good guy, and being that he loves this woman and being that he really deep down wants her to LOVE him...he thinks about it. He knows that in some ways she is right