Could someone give me a general rule/principle on sexuality and marriage?
In the article Sex Before Marriage: How Far is Too Far” by Tim Lane –I have to read this article and have to answer some questions as I read, but need help in some of them. Can someone help me out please? Thanks
This is a great question and one that is important. Tim Lane is a counselor with Christian Counseling and Education Foundation (CCEF). They are based out of Philadelphia and have some ties with Westminster Theological Seminary. Hence, their view on sexuality is pretty conservative and rooted in a close understanding of the Bible.
The general principles are as follows:
First, sex is a precious act that requires the protection of marriage. In other words, sex is not banned before marriage, because it is bad or negative in any sense. It is protected, because it is precious and communicates more than just the physical action. It is the culmination of love and commitment. It requires two adults who are committed to one another in marriage. This is the classical understanding among Reformed theologians.
Second, CCEF counselors are also quick to point out that the heart matters. They bring up passages like Matthew 5:28:
"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
In light of this point, the root cause of sexuality going awry is the unbridled heart that is not checked. Hence, they will say that the most important principle is to guard your heart.