How would I conclude an essay to whether courting rituals and dating as we see it today is a positive or negative. My instructor keeps saying its about children and thats is not how I want to present it. Any ideas?
There are generally two ways to frame the conclusion to a paper, whether it is a personal essay or a paper developed from research. One is to summarize the main points you have made in your composition. The other is a "So what?" conclusion that calls for some analysis and interpretation by the writer. After writing the composition, presenting your information and developing your ideas, ask yourself, "So what?" Why is this information important or signigicant? What does it suggest or reveal? What can be predicted based on the information presented?
I don't know the specific assignment given to you by your instructor, but your question suggests that your teacher might want you to do some independent thinking and arrive at some concluding observations. Perhaps the "So what?" approach will work for you. Good luck!
It's difficult for anyone to help you conclude an essay without reading the essay, or at least knowing your thesis and main points. That said, I'll try to clarify your thinking a little bit if I can.
If I understand your instructor, he/she is thinking biologically. The question is something like: do our courting rituals and dating efficiently lead to reproduction? I'm assuming this based on your statement that the instructor says the essay is about the children. If my assumption is incorrect I apologize.
I guess my question is that if you don't want to deal with the issue of the children, how have you gotten around it in the rest of the essay? And if you wrote about children in the rest of your essay, why not in the introduction?
At the same time, you could mean that the instructor says specifically that your conclusion should be about the children. In that case, my short answer is that you probably should do what your instructor says. That's where your grade comes from. At the same time, there might be other options.
You see the problem dealing with your situation without more info. Can you reply and give us more info?