Compare the relationship between Jonas and the Giver to Jonas' relationship with his family unit in The Giver.

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Jonas'relationship with his family is very clinical, formal,  and structured whereas Jonas' relationship with the Giver is emotionally charged, informal,  and unfiltered.  For example, when Jonas discusses dreams and events with his family, the conversation is kind, yet takes on an air of distance.  No passion exists when subjects are discussed.  When his sister Lily explains she felt angry at a boy who cut in line at the slide, the parents counsel her to learn to try to see things from the boy's point of view.  When Jonas discusses a dream he has about about his friend, Fiona, he stays back with his mother so she can explain "Stirrings", and tells him there is a pill for that.  The family unit is devoid of emotion and passion, a stark contrast to familial relationships in American society.

Emotion and passion is the core of the relationship Jonas has with the Giver, which makes sense since memories of emotion are being transmitted to Jonas.  When Jonas experiences painful memories such as starvation which no other members of his community have experienced except the Giver, the bond is forged.  Pleasant memories increase the bond, too; however, those of pain, sorrow, and anguish set these two character apart because nobody else can possibly understand.  This makes their relationship far more intense.


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