George Wilson and Tom Buchanan are about as far as apart as it's possible for two people to be. George is a struggling small businessman operating a not very successful garage in the Valley of Ashes. He's a quiet, unassuming man without much ambition in life. He loves his wife,...
George Wilson and Tom Buchanan are about as far as apart as it's possible for two people to be. George is a struggling small businessman operating a not very successful garage in the Valley of Ashes. He's a quiet, unassuming man without much ambition in life. He loves his wife, Myrtle, as we see from his reaction to her tragic death. But his relationship with Myrtle has an air of codependency to it. She's a much more dominant character, for one thing, and certainly a good deal more ambitious in life. She yearns for a gilded existence of lavish parties and fine clothes, a glimpse of which she gains due to her affair with Tom.
Tom Buchanan is a wealthy, dominant alpha male from a distinguished old money family. He's a bit of a bully and constantly needs to control and impose himself on those around him. He subscribes to the prevailing double standard in which it's considered fine for men to have affairs (so long as they don't get caught), but not women. So Tom, despite cheating on Daisy with Myrtle Wilson, is incredibly upset to learn that Daisy's been having an affair with Gatsby.
Tom treats both his wife and his mistress like dirt, whereas the meek, submissive George tends to put his wife on a pedestal. Each man also reacts differently when they find out that their other halves have been cheating on them. George's actions smack of desperation: hurriedly deciding to move out west and locking Myrtle in her room. Tom, on the other hand, with the arrogance and self-confidence of wealth and a good name, coldly and calculatingly sets out to wreck Daisy's affair by exposing the source of Gatsby's ill-gotten gains.
Ultimately, neither man has much respect or understanding for women. Both creatures of their time, they have a very narrow conception of what a woman's place in life should be. The difference lies in how they try to maintain control when the women in their lives start to challenge the roles they've been allotted by a male-dominated society.