Romeo's initial choice to court Juliet despite the fued between their families seems like the most significant choice of the play. Essentially all of the action (and turmoil and tragedy) of the play stems from this decision.
Perhaps the choice with the most impact was the decision to keep this relationship a secret. Romeo and Juliet basically eloped. Their parents and the Prince were unaware of their decision. Perhaps the marriage might have been prevented if the families were aware. Perhaps the feuding would have stopped or at least slowed. Certainly Romeo and Juliet wouldn't have ended up in the same situation if they had been honest about their relationship.
It seems doubtful that the nit-wit Nurse would be of any assistance to Juliet. Why would she not run off just as Friar Lawrence does when Juliet awakes in the catacombs? After all, she vacuously suggests that Juliet marry Paris even though she is aware that Juliet has married Romeo.
In accord, then, with the previous post, the marriage of Romeo and Juliet which occurs only a "blink of an eye" after they meet is the most devastating action they take. For, after this act of union, Romeo and Juliet have committed themselves to one path and cannot change or return to another. Were they not married, Romeo would not have tried to placate Tybalt, and Mercutio may not have died. Were they not married, Juliet would not have been faced with the dilemma of what to do about marrying Paris.
If Romeo and Juliet were more gradual about expressing their love, perhaps they could have eased their parents into the idea of their loving someone who has long been declared an enemy.
I'm not sure the preliminary choices of talking and getting to know one another were the worst decisions Romeo and Juliet made. I think when they decided to get married in secret and avoided including their family's they went wrong. I also think they married too hastily.
Interesting point in post 5 - thanks for introducing a different view of the relationship and its development.
I tend to agree that Romeo's decision to continue attempting to get acquainted with Juliet is the crucial turning point. If he had been turned away from seeking her attention at some point, the rest of the story would never have happened.
For me, the most impactful choice is Juliet's decision not to share her plan with the Nurse. Had she done so, the Nurse, as she has done so often, would have protected Juliet. Even though she told Juliet to forget about Romeo and marry Paris (even after Juliet was married), her motivation was to see Juliet happy. With Juliet since she was born, she adored her and, like her mother, was broken-hearted to see Juliet so unhappy. The Nurse was even resentful of Romeo's hand in Tybalt's death, but for Juliet, she would eventually have gotten over it.
However, because Juliet does not take the Nurse into her confidence, there is no one at her side when Romeo shows up. It seems safe to assume that the Nurse would have been there waiting, though certainly Friar Lawrence should have been. Having a back-up plan in place would have saved Juliet's life, and she and Romeo could have run away together until their parents got over losing them both. At least, this is the way I see it.
I would agree with the previous two posts and say Romeo as well. In addition to Romeo choosing to sweet-talk Juliet on the balcony, his actions also result in his banishment from Verona. If he had not been banished, the whole Juliet faking her death would have gone down much differently, because Romeo could have been close at hand and known the details. OR they could have had more time to plan some type of elopement... Ahh, the what-ifs!
I agree with the previous response. Romeo's decision to approach Juliet on her balcony is fraught with consequences that Juliet makes very clear, basically telling him that he will face death if her family spots him there. It is also true, however, that Juliet pushes Romeo to declare his intent to marry her. I suppose she does this knowing that her parents want her to meet Paris, but it is a hasty decision, and one which leads to their deaths.
For me, the biggest one is Romeo's decision to talk to Juliet when he hears her up on her balcony (in the beginning of Act II). At that point, Romeo could have walked away. He could have realized that their love was doomed, but instead he kept pursuing her. Maybe it is unreasonable to think that he could have passed up this chance, but it still seems like something he could have done. Because he didn't, all of the tragic events of the rest of the play take place.
I think the choice of Romeo to have gone to the party , and after leaving the party he decided to talk to juliet when he was dating another. I also believe the fact that Romeo could not tell his parents about his love , and when he killed juliet's cousin that was a great turning point as you can never go back after you have done that. There were so many turning points in this play that could of changed the outcome of the whole story. However, it was want that kept it going on a doomed path, Romeo wanted Juliet and she wanted him, so want is the biggest turning point.
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