bullyingHow can you make a bully leave your little sister alone

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litteacher8 | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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This depends on how old the kids we are talking about are. Ultimately, you have to teach your little sister some coping skills. Analyze the problem to determine who is bullying her and why. Is it an individual or a group? Is there a known trigger or is it just regular? I am not suggesting you blame your sister, just get Information on the situation. Then you can teach he'd how to act.
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ask996 | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Senior Educator

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There are always options for solving this problem, but sometimes we don't choose the appropriate options. First, if this problem is taking place at school or on the bus, your sister must let a teacher or bus driver know and your parent or guardian know. The school staff should then follow up on and rectify the situation. If this does not solve the problem, then a parent or guardian should advocate on behalf of your sister until the situation is resolved. 

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brettd | High School Teacher | (Level 2) Educator Emeritus

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The new laws against bullying are strong, and teachers and principals are constantly told how important it is to stop bullying when they see it.  If you notify a teacher, especially your sister's teachers, you can do so anonymously, and the teacher will start paying closer attention to your sister's situation.  That means they'll see bullying in action and they'll step in and deal with the ones doing it, while no one will know that you went to the teacher.  It is important to let your parents know too, of course.  They have a right to know what is happening with their daughter and with you.

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clairewait | High School Teacher | (Level 1) Educator Emeritus

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I agree with post #2.  Often the best step in a bullying situation is to involve the right adult(s) to help de-escalate the situation.  I understand the current trend of "snitches get stitches" seems to permeate the high school and middle school social scene, but the fact is, both the saying and what it implies, is nothing but ignorant.

The only way to stop any ongoing negative behavior is to shed as much light and attention on it as possible.  Students, teachers, parents and administration should all be working together in any matter of threat or bullying.  As a big brother, resist the urge to get a group together to threaten back.  Instead, perhaps help your sister surround herself with more positive peers and friends.  There is strength in numbers, so to speak, but you don't want to speak the message that you are looking to end one form of bullying with another.

I believe no student should have to experience threat and fear in an environment they spend so much time in.  Go to your parents, a trusted teacher or coach, AND other students.  Involve people.  Make a positive change by doing something big, but positive.

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Lori Steinbach | High School Teacher | (Level 3) Distinguished Educator

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It would be helpful to know the context of this question--where is the bullying occurring, how severe is the bullying, how young is your sister, what have you tried on your own, have you told anyone in authority and if so, what has already been done or tried.  Without this kind of information, it's hard to be very helpful.  In general terms, though, I'd say I love that you want to protect your little sister, but it's not your responsibility and you you should be able to find some adult(s) in your life who will step in and take care of this problem.  When that happens, you can just be the loving older sister who has modeled the right behaviors for her younger sister.  You can talk to all kinds of people, depending on the situation, but you should probably start with your parents and go from there.  Again, we just don't know enough--perhaps you've already done this.  If not, that's certainly where I'd recommend you start--and sooner is better than later. 

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meganp0504 | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 2) Honors

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But thats the thing sometimes telling a parent doesnt do anything.sometimes parents or teachers dont care.i know my mom cares but still.Because of bullyin my 11 yr old sister cutes herself

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pramugdha | Student, Undergraduate | (Level 2) eNoter

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if the bullying is very severe try to ask an adult to stop it....ask your sister to be strong and face the bullies with courage...the best option is to leave it on adults to handle the situation...  =]

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krishna-agrawala | College Teacher | (Level 3) Valedictorian

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The problem of bullying is something which can not be eliminated completely in some situation. We need to learn to differentiate between minor unavoidable cases of bullying - which should be accepted as such - and more serious forms of bully.

Some corrective measures are required in more serious cases. The nature of these action can include a mixture of the following>

  • Appropriate behaviour by the person being bullied.
  • A friendly talk by a responsible person with the bully asking the bully to stop the offending behavior.
  • Talking to parents or teacher of bully, asking them to prevail upon the bully to stop the offending behavior.

An offensive against the bully is generally not advised. But when necessary it may be used, taking care that it is decisive without causing serious harm to the bully. Also one must consider the possibility of such action escalating the problem, rather than solving.

In any case before you take any action, it is best to study the reality of situation clearly, and plan your move carefully.

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