Buddhism and MarriageWhat is the impact on a Buddhist person's faith after he or she is married?  

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litteacher8 eNotes educator| Certified Educator
If a Buddhist marries another Buddhist, the two should have an understanding of faith and some common values and goals. If a Buddhist gets married to a member of another faith, there will be some adjustments on the part of both of them. Marriage is always about compromise and commitment. Sometimes when people are of two different faiths it can be difficult. The key is communication and tolerance, on the part of both spouses.
thirdgraderocks | Student

From the Buddhist point of view, marriage is neither holy nor unholy, therefore, faith does not change in the case of marriage. Buddhism does not regard marriage as a religious duty nor as a sacrament that is ordained in heaven. A cynic has said that while some people believe that marriage is planned in heaven, others say that it is recorded in hell also! Marriage is basically a personal and social obligation, it is not compulsory. Man and woman must have freedom either to get married or to remain single. This does not mean that Buddhism is against marriage. Nobody in this world would say that marriage is bad and there is no religion which is against marriage

According to Buddhist teaching, in a marriage, the husband can expect the following qualities from his wife:

  • — love
  • — attentiveness
  • — family obligations
  • — faithfulness
  • — child-care
  • — thrift
  • — the provision of meals
  • — to calm him down when he is upset
  • — sweetness in everything

In return, the wife's expectation from husband is:

  • — tenderness
  • — courtesy
  • — sociability
  • — security
  • — fairness
  • — loyalty
  • — honesty
  • — good companionship
  • — moral support
npoore84 | Student

The Buddhist faith neither encourages nor discourages marriage, yet there are guidelines that each person is given if they decide to participate in a marriage ceremony. Buddah pointed out the problems, difficulties, and worries that come with the union of marraige. The Buddah emphasized the importance of happiness in life and if marriage brings two Buddhists happiness in this life, it is not condemned. The husband is allowed to expect certain things from his wife after marriage. These include love, attentiveness, family responsibilities, and more. And in return, the wife is allowed to expect certain things from her husband: companionship, tenderness, courtesy, etc. The Buddhists do not encourage nor discourage marriage, and one is still able to participate in the Buddhist rituals and religious aspects.