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BOY FRIEND AND GIRL FRIEND CULTURE -- has it gone too far? i am very much in touch with present generation. boy friend culture is taking perverted ways which are demotivating youth. their is nothing wrong in friend ship. but the dating culture is ruing the student life. the consequences are very grave. please give your views.

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I would like to ask user1754155, who originated this discussion, how he feels about legalized abortion and about gay marriage, both of which are fairly recent developments and both of which are highly controversial subjects.

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I worry more about the younger children who date these days--middle schoolers as young as 11 or 12 who routinely find the need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at all times. Many of them engage in adult relations and put themselves in adult situations that wouldn't have been tolerated by most parents a generation or two ago.

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It is a sure sign that the girlfriend-boyfriend culture has gone too far when students are caught on a routine basis in all high schools in a county district engaged in intercourse during school hours under stairwells and in back corridors with seemingly little concern for being seen or caught. It is also a sign that this coupling culture has gone too far when middle-schoolers are not assured of safety from molestation at parties at school or at friend's homes. While such things may have always gone on (there was both Johnny Angel and Johnny Rebel in the more idyllic 1950s), these things have escalated and intensified in extent, harm, incidence and severity.

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I recently saw that teen pregnancy rates have fallen off dramatically in recent decades. This is true in the US anyway. Given this trend, I find it hard to condemn teen relationships as being too serious or too distracting. 

If a person is going to be distracted from his or her studies by the presence of the opposite sex, that person would still be distracted if he or she went to a single gender school. In my opinion, if the dedication to academic achievement is not there in the first place, distraction is inevitable, whether that distraction comes from boys, girls, sports or video games. 

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I'm curious as to what you think is wrong with having young men and women dating.  What, specifically, is going on that you think will have "grave" consequences?    It seems to me that it is very normal and proper for young people to have romantic relationships.  How else will they learn how to relate to the opposite sex?

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