Depending on your exact definition of “experience life on their own terms,” I do definitely agree with this statement, particularly as children get older. I am a firm believer in the idea that “helicopter parents” are not doing their children any favors.
I do not agree with the idea of simply letting children run free without any rules. If this is what is meant by “experience life on their own terms,” I do not agree with it. However, if we are talking about giving children a great deal of independence to make their own mistakes, I am all in favor.
As one example, I have never set a bed time for my children. I have set a time that they must be in their rooms, but I have never told them to turn the light off and go to sleep at any given time. I believe in letting them figure out for themselves what they need to do. I believe that they learn self-discipline in that way. The same thing goes for their homework. I will not look over their shoulder as they do their homework or make them let me see it before they turn it in. If they do a good job, that is great. But I want them to be the ones who drive themselves to do so. I will express disappointment if they do not do well, but I will not check up on them.
I believe this statement is true because letting kids do things on their own gives them the self-discipline and self-confidence to know that they can go out in the world and take care of themselves.