Am I required to inform the father of my unborn child on the status of mine and the baby's health even though he is not helping with the bills?He refuses to pay anything until after a paternity...

Am I required to inform the father of my unborn child on the status of mine and the baby's health even though he is not helping with the bills?

He refuses to pay anything until after a paternity test. I do not feel obligated to keep him informed since I am paying for everything on my own.

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Lorraine Caplan eNotes educator| Certified Educator

There is no state law that I am aware of that requires you to inform your unborn baby's father of anything about you and/or the baby. However, there are a few issues for you to consider. 

If you are certain that this person is the father of your child, then do you think it will be good for your child if you keep this person out of the child's life?  Probably not!

If paternity is disputed, then a paternity test should certainly be done, but there are consequences that you need to be aware of.  If this person is the father of your child, then you are entitled to sue him for child support, which would require him to help bear the expense of raising a child.  On the other hand, if he is the father of your child, then he will be entitled to seek custody, partial custody, or visitation.  If a court order is issued awarding you and him joint custody, then you will have to provide information on the child and involve the father in any major decisions made about the child.  This will be true whether or not he fulfills his obligation of support, since states generally consider these to be separate issues. 

I can certainly understand your resentment about a person who wants information but is not willing to help.  But perhaps you need to understand that a person might not be willing to undertake such a major responsibility and commitment without evidence that he is obligated to do so.  Clearly, in my opinion, if you establish paternity, the child will have one more person who is obligated and who seems to be interested in taking a part in the child's life.

Good luck!